Dysfunctional families
Part 1
Part 1
According to the session, what does interdependence mean?
A state in which people are dependent on one another in order to work together for a common good.
Who is the scapegoat in a dysfunctional family?
The focus of attention for the dysfunctional family because of their destructive behavior.
T/F: When anger is directed inward(not directed towards others), it can lead to depression and self-hatred.
True
What does reconciliation mean according to the session?
Coming to terms with strong feelings and with your family members and reaching peace with them and yourself.
What is easy to get into but hard to get out of?
Trouble
According to the session, what is the definition of trauma?
An emotional state of extreme discomfort and stress that results from a major painful experience.
Who is the placater in a dysfunctional family
The family social worker.
T/F: According to the session, pain and anxiety are common experiences for people who grow up in dysfunctional families.
False
Pain and anger
Real reconciliation is possible
You cannot keep me until I am given. What am I?
Your word
According to the session, what is the meaning of the word dysfunctional?
That the relationship among family members and the roles that family members take on are unhealthy.
Who is the hero in a dysfunctional family?
The child who takes on the adult responsibilities for the other children.
T/F: When overcoming fear, if people do not face unpleasant feelings, they will have the same risk of relapse as people who do face them.
False
They will have greater risk of relapse
What are 3 aspects of overcoming family dysfunction?
Overcoming hurt
Overcoming anger
Overcoming fear
A man who was outside in the rain without an umbrella or hat didn’t get a single hair on his head wet. Why?
He was bald.
What are 5 common elements associated with codependency?
1) Currently or recently living with an active addicted person.
2) An obsession with the needs and behaviors of the addicted person
3) Tendency to please the addicted person while depriving oneself.
4) Confusion over one's own identity
5) very low self-esteem
What is a bad aspect of accepting dysfunctional family roles?
It makes it hard for the individual to communicate effectively or experience and express feelings.
T/F: When it comes to forgiveness and reconciliation, early and current family conflicts that cause pain, anger, fear, and anxiety need to be dealt with and resolved completely.
False
Only to some extent
What is the importance of overcoming anger?
To talk about this anger and find healthy ways to express it.
What is always in front of you but can’t be seen?
The future
What are 5 things that are included in interdependence among people?
1) Open communication
2)Share decisions
3)Joint action
4) Trust
5) Concern for each other
How do family members in a healthy family deal with traumatic events? What happens in a dysfunctional family household?
They will talk about it and try to make sense of it.
Feelings and emotions may return after the initial shock has passed.
T/F: Reconciliation can only be done with family members that are alive or around.
False
You must find this peace inside.
If pain and anger are common experiences for people who grow up in a dysfunctional family, what problems does this cause for them.
They are fearful of intimacy and close relationships.
They are afraid they will have to go through more pain and anger in new relationships.
I am not alive, but I grow; I don't have lungs, but need air; I don't have a mouth, but water kills me. What am I?
Fire