Finding and getting people to like you
Being physically around and visible is important for familiarity that leads to liking and sometimes love.
True or false
True
What is the goal when using the DEAR MAN skill
Effectively ask for what you want
Effectively say "No"
What are the steps to joining an ongoing group conversation?
1)Figure out if a group is open or closed, 2) figure out how to join an open group conversation.
what are three ways we can practice the mindfulness Observe skill when building a relationship?
Pay attention with interest and curiosity to others around you, stop multitasking, stay in the present rather than planning what to say next, let go of focus on self, be open, notice judgements, give up clingning to always be right
What are the kind of similarities to look for in others?
Similarities in positive core values, life style, morals, and attitudes.
What is the goal when using the GIVE skill?
To keep or maintain a relationship
what is an open group? what is a closed group?
Open group new members are welcome
Closed group new members are not welcome
What are three ways to use mindfulness Describe skill when building a relationship?
Avoid assuming or interpreting what other people think about you without checking the facts, avoid questioning other people's motives, give other the benefit of doubt, Replace judgment words with descriptive words.
We all have belonging and connection needs that are met when we______________
Direct our energy in the right direction. Do we like them? who do I want to befriend? do their relationship values align with my values?
What is the goal when using the FAST skill?
To maintain my self-respect. (Feel good about myself after leaving a conversation).
What does an open group look like?
Everyone is standing somewhat apart, Members occasionally glance around the room, there are gaps in the conversation, Members are talking about a topic of general interest.
Throw yourself in interactions with others, Go with the flow, rather than trying to control the flow, Become one with group activities and conversations.
How do we express genuine liking?
Compliment the other person as you get to know them, Do not love bomb because it may seem inauthentic/desperate, People want to be like for who they are.
What are healthy boundaries?
Flexible enough that we can choose what to let in and what to keep out.
Not Rigid, Not loose.
What does a closed group look like?
Everyone is standing close together, members attend exclusively to each other, There is a very animated conversation with few gaps, Members seem to be pairing off.
What is the mindfulness of others skill?
Mindfulness of others is a skill from DBT that helps us to be more present in our interactions with others in order to help build new relationships and strengthen existing ones.
What are the 5 conversation skills in building a relationship?
Ask and respond to questions, make small talk, self-disclose skillfully, Don't interrupt, Learn things to talk about.
BONUS!!!! Additional 100 pts
How do we build trust?
1) Honesty 2) Being understanding and respectful when others are honest 3) Consistency
What is the most effective way to join an Open Group? And what is the potential outcome?
Wait for a break in the conversation, stand beside a friendly-looking member of the group and say something like "Mind if I join you"
This makes your intention clear and doesn't seem rude or interrupt the conversation; group members can then choose whether to introduce themselves or not.
What Emotion Regulation Skill can you use to avoid making assumptions or interpretations that limits our ability to be mindful of others?
Check the Facts