Family Roles
The person who often tells others what to do and takes charge.
What is The Leader or "boss,"
A daily or weekly event where family members share how their day went.
What is a family meeting
Saying what you need calmly without blaming or hurting someone is called this
What is assertive communication
Taking deep breaths or counting to 10 helps you do this skill.
What is calm down, or self regulate
believing that others are responsible for your behaviors is called this.
What is blaming
The sibling who uses humor to lighten the mood.
Listening without interrupting when someone is talking and letting them know you understand
What is active listening
Yelling and blaming to get your way is this.
What is aggressive communication
Paying full attention to the present moment without judgment is called this.
What is mindfulness
This is when someone stops responding or withdraws during a conflict.
What is shutting down, or emotional withdrawal
The one who takes care of others, sometimes forgetting their own needs.
What is the caretaker or rescuer
Sharing these regularly helps keep the home clean and fair.
What are chores
This kind of joking often sounds funny but can be hurtful or mean.
What is sarcasm
A grounding skill that uses your five senses to focus your attention.
What is 5-4-3-2-1
Seeing things as all good or all bad is called this thinking.
what is Black of white thinking
The family member who causes conflict to get attention and is often blamed for things.
What is the troublemaker or scapegoat
Saying “I’m sorry” when you hurt someone’s feelings is this.
What is apologizing
Giving someone this clearly and kindly helps improve relationships.
What is feedback
Positive words you tell yourself to reduce worry or encourage yourself
What is positive self talk.
Getting defensive when someone gives feedback is this.
What is defensiveness
A reason people fall into family roles.
What is to feel safe, needed, or connected?
Setting limits on phone or screen time during family time helps with this.
What is being present or improving connection?
The three parts of an “I-statement.”
What are
I feel
When
Because
A helpful way to manage strong emotions by stepping away for a moment.
What is taking a time out, or a break.
Fight, flight, or freeze are these—ways people protect themselves when they feel scared or stressed
What are defense mechanisms