Emotional Regulation
In your own words, what is emotional regulation?
Emotional regulation is used to manage big emotions and help calm down before saying or doing something hurtful
In your own words, what is a direct request?
Direct requests are used to express something that you need
In your own words, what is reflective listening?
Reflective listening is used to directly reflect back what the other person said, without adding your own opinions or comments
In your own words, what are impact statements?
Impact statements are used to express emotions (I feel ______ when you ______ because ______)
You are starting to get angry while having a conversation with a family member. What skill(s) should you use?
Emotional regulation and/or taking a break
Deep breathing, taking a break, and distracting yourself (reading, watching TV, etc.) are all examples of...
Use a direct request for the following situation: you have something from school that needs to be signed and taken back
Ex. I need you to sign this paper by Thursday so I can take it back to school by Friday
Reflect the following statement: I really enjoy spending time with you because it makes me feel like you care
Use an impact statement to express your gratitude for something a family member did for you (remember, "I feel _____ (emotion word) when you _______ (thing the person did) because ________ (why it made you feel that way)")
Ex. I feel grateful when you help me with things around the house because it makes me feel like you care
You are feeling frustrated that a family member has not done something. Which skill could you use to express that feeling?
Impact statement
What are important things to consider when taking a break?
How long the break will be, when to come back together, how to tell each other you need a break, etc.
Use a direct request for the following situation: you would like something in the house picked up before bed tonight
Ex. I need you to do the dishes before you get ready for bed tonight
Reflect the following statement: I felt frustrated when you didn't do what I asked because it made me feel like you don't care
Ex. It sounds like when I didn't do what you asked that made you frustrated because you felt like I didn't care
Use an impact statement to express your frustration about something a family member did (remember, "I feel _____ (emotion word) when you _______ (thing the person did) because ________ (why it made you feel that way)")
Ex. I felt frustrated when you didn't do what I asked because it made me feel like you don't care
Your family member is telling you something and you want them to know that you hear and understand them. What skill could you use?
Reflective listening
You need to set an expectation with your family member or tell them you need something. What skill could you use?
Direct requests