F
The “F” in FAST stands for...
Fair
The “A” in FAST stands for...
Apologies (don’t over-apologize)
The "S" in FAST stands for...
Stick to values
The “T” in FAST stands for...
Truthful
A friend asks you to lie to their partner to cover up a mistake they made. If you say no because you value honesty, you are practicing this letter of FAST.
S - stick to values
Being fair means treating both yourself and others with ______.
Respect
True or False: FAST says you should never apologize.
False
What are values?
Give one reason people lie during conflict.
You are HANGRY at a staff member for a delay in getting your snack, but you pause, realize they didn't cause it, and treat them with respect while stating your issue. You are applying this letter of FAST.
F - fair
This is the person you are neglecting to be fair to when you constantly give in to others' demands just to keep the peace.
Yourself
What is over-apologizing?
This is the feeling you often experience later when you sell out your values just to get someone to like you in the moment.
Guilt/shame/regret
How can honesty improve relationships?
Instead of saying "I can't do this homework, it's impossible, I'm too stupid," you say, "This homework is really hard, and I need to ask for help on question three." You have successfully applied this letter of FAST.
T - truthful
When analyzing a situation for fairness, you should look at the facts of the situation rather than being guided solely by these intense internal experiences.
Emotions/feelings
What do you do to your perceived value and self-respect in the eyes of others when you constantly apologize for just being in the room?
Lower/damage it
To stick to your values, you must be clear on what these are—the personal lines you draw that you refuse to let others cross.
Boundaries
This cognitive error the act of making a situation sound much worse, more dramatic, or more significant than it actually is.
Catastrophizing/exaggerating
Why is FAST difficult during emotional situations?
This other DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness skill focuses on objective-effectiveness and should be balanced with fairness so you don't become overly aggressive.
DEAR MAN
In FAST, you should apologize under this specific condition.
When you have actually done something wrong or violated your own values
This is the DBT term for the state of mind where you balance your reasonable mind and your emotion mind to connect with your deepest truth and values.
Wise mind
When you lie or act helpless to get what you want, you are sacrificing this primary long-term goal of the FAST skill.
Self-respect
A peer disrespects you. Give a FAST response that keeps self-respect without aggression.