My Five Steps
The first step in My Five Steps?
"Go to the safe place" (I AM)
This Feeling Buddy tells us, "calm down and change"
Who (or what) is Angry/Mad?
When I feel angry, what can I do?
Go to the safe place/take a break, take a breath
You are sitting on the floor. A friend is walking past you and steps on your hand. What could you say to be helpful?
"Ouch! You stepped on my hand. Please watch where you are stepping."
What is the purpose of the survival state?
To survive/stay safe
What is the second step in My Five Steps
"Calm my body down" (I Calm)
This Feeling Buddy tells us, "You are love and so am I!"
Who (or what) is Happy?
Demonstrate a S.T.A.R. breath
Smile
Take a deep breath
And
Relax
You want to talk to a friend to solve a problem. What tool can you use? (you want to go back in TIME)
If you are crying or saying hurtful things, which brain state are you most likely in?
a. survival
b. emotional
c. executive
Emotional
What is the third step in My Five Steps?
This Feeling Buddy tells us, "I need help to feel safe."
Who (or what) is Scared?
Demonstrate a drain breath.
Hold out your arms. Squeeze all your muscles tight... and release.
You are standing in line and a friend starts pushing you. Using your BIG voice, what can you say?"
"I don't like when you ______. Please ______?"
I don't like when you push me. Please keep your hands to yourself.
What part of the brain is our Executive State (the thinking brain)?
a. The Brain Stem
b. The Amygdala
c. The Prefrontal Cortex
The Prefrontal Cortex
What is the fourth step in My Five Steps to Calm
I Choose - picking a tool to help my body
This Feeling Buddy tells us, "I need comfort right now."
Who is Sad?
You did it!
In "Shubert Sees the Best", who was mean? Crenshaw? The class? Neither?
What did they learn?
Neither! They learned ways to be helpful instead of hurtful.
True or false:
You can think clearly and solve problems regardless of which brain state you are in?
False.
What is the fifth step in My Five Steps
"I Solve"
(choosing a strategy to solve our problem. i.e. time machine, seeing the best, using "I feel" statements)
Why is it important for us to understand our Feeling Buddy messages? (think about step 4 in our steps)
It helps us to choose the right "tool" to help our feeling.
Name all of the breathing buddies
S.T.A.R., drain, balloon, pretzel
True or false:
To use the Time Machine, both friends have to be willing to solve the problem?
True
Name two tools that can help you move out of your survival state
take a deep breath
go to a safe place
say an affirmation like "I am safe"