Calm Down Tools
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Name That Calm-Down Tool
Be Kind to YOURSELF
100

You take 3 slow, big breaths in and out. What does this do?

What is helps you cool down / feel calm?

100

Two kids want one ball. Name one fair plan.

Take turns, play together. Ro-Sham-Bo

100

Finish this: “I can’t do it …”

“Yet!”

100

I breathe in slowly and blow out slowly. What am I doing?

Taking deep breaths  

100

Your friend says, “I believe in you.” Say those words to yourself.

“I believe in myself!”

200

Counting slowly from 1 to 10 helps when you feel ____.

What is mad / angry?

200

You both want to go first. Name one fair way to choose.

play rock-paper-scissors or Ro-Sham-Bo

200

Which helps you learn: “I give up” or “I can try again”?

“I can try again!”

200

I say, “1, 2, 3…” slowly to help me calm down. What am I doing?

Counting

200

You feel scared to try something new. What can you tell yourself?

“I can be brave and give it a try.”

300

Name one safe thing to do when you feel upset.

What is ask for help / breathe / count / walk away and take a break

300

A friend bumps you by mistake. What could you say?

“Are you okay?” or “Please be careful.”

300

You make a mistake. Can you still learn?

Yes! Mistakes help me learn.

300

We use our hands to play a game. Rock beats scissors. What is it?

Rock, paper, scissors / Ro sham bo

300

Someone finishes before you. What can you tell yourself?

“I can go at my own pace.”

400

Breathe in slowly. Then breathe ____.

Out
400

You want tag. Your friend wants soccer. Name a fair plan.

Compromise: Play one, then the other, or choose a game together

400

Your work feels hard. What can you tell yourself?

“I can do hard things!” or “I can ask for help.”

400

You go, then I go. We both get a chance to play.

Taking turns


400

You think, “I’m not good at anything.” Name one thing you do well.

Any strength: “I’m a good friend,” “I’m creative,” or “I help others.”

500

Your body needs a rest. You can ask for a ____.

Break

500

Someone keeps hurting you after you say “Stop.” What should you do?

Move to a safe place and tell an adult

500

You miss a shot in a game. What can you say to yourself?

“I can keep practicing!” or “I’ll try again!”

500

We want different things. We make a plan that gives us each some of what we want.

Compromise

500

You make a mistake. Say something kind to yourself.

It’s okay. Everyone makes mistakes.”