Helpful or Unhelpful Thinking
It’s okay if I make a mistake.
Helpful
Anger ONLY happens when something happens to me.
False- you can also be mad at yourself.
Fight, Flight, Freeze
Our bodies do this to protect us in dangerous situations.
Not telling someone you care about that they hurt your feelings.
Unhelpful – telling someone how you feel can help strengthen that relationship.
I feel exhausted.
Feeling
They don’t like me.
Unhelpful
How you are feeling is always right.
True- everyone is always allowed to feel whatever emotion is happening.
Angry
Making a tight fist, red in the face, tense jaw
Screaming in someone’s face.
Unhelpful – this can hurt the relationship and hurt how you feel about yourself.
I feel like a bad friend.
Thought!
Feelings are one word - you might feel guilty, upset, etc. and that makes you THINK you are a bad friend.
I’m stupid.
Unhelpful
Emotions Communicate through our behaviours.
Excited or Nervous
Talking Really Fast
Avoiding Telling a friend they hurt your feelings
Unhelpful
I feel like I could run 10 miles!
Thought! - Feeling Excited and that makes your body fill with adrenaline making it have a lot of energy.
Good Enough.
Helpful – can help promote self compassion and acceptance of not needing to be perfect.
It is okay to question the intensity of a feeling.
True – while the feeling itself is always allowed the intensity of it may not match the situation.
Tired or Thirsty
Yawning
Helping bring in the groceries with your parent without being asked.
Helpful
I feel so proud of myself.
Feeling
Theirs was better.
Unhelpful.
The more you focus on a feeling the smaller it becomes.
False – need to focus on the opposite feeling.
Relaxed or Worried
Quiet, not talking, being alone.
Accepting that someone said, “no”.
Helpful - not only is it helpful it also shows respect to yourself, others and the relationship you have with them.
I'm feel overwhelmed and I can't do anything.
Feeling - overwhelmed
Thought - I can't do anything.