Anger
What is anger?
An emotion one feels when one is displeased, annoyed or frustrated.
what are emotions?
the strong, honest feelings people have in response to things happening around them
What is the format for I-statements?
I feel [emotion] when [behavior]…
Boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves in relationships.
Should you always knock before entering a room?
Yes!
What is the anger iceberg?
Anger iceberg explains that we may show anger but we have more emotions hidden beneath the surface.
Is it okay to show your emotions? Is it okay to talk about your emotions?
YES it is okay! You should always talk about your emotions.
“ You never listen to me!" Rephrase this into an I-statement
I feel agitated when I am not heard.
I feel upset when I am feel like im being ignored.
any like this are good!
What are the different types of boundaries?
Boundaries include: physical, emotional, time, material, sexual, and intellectual
How can you spend time as a family?
eat dinner together, watch movies, go to church together
What should you NOT do when you are angry?
You should NOT: yell, push, hit, curse, say insults or say “I hate you“
Can you feel emotions in different parts of your body?
Yes!
What is active listening?
Treating listening as an active process, rather than a passive one.
Sister takes brothers art supplies without asking. He has told her before to ask him before grabbing any of these things Is sister respecting his boundaries?
No she is not.
What is the proper way to apologize to someone?
provide space if they are very mad, apologize when they are ready to talk, use I statements, apologize for what you did and for affecting the other persons feelings
What can you do to when you are angry?
Walk away from the situation, breathe, use an ice cube on your face, count to 100, listen to music
Do people feel emotions in different ways?
What is included in active listening?
-put away distractions. -use verbal and nonverbal communication - ask questions. - reflect -be present - be open minded
A friend hugs you without asking, you are now uncomfortable. How could you tell them they crossed a boundary?
Use "I" Statements: Focus on your feelings ”I am uncomfortable when you hug Me.“ Talk about your boundaries with your friend. Be honest but respectful. Remain Calm: You do not need to be angry to be firm.
Is it nice to call each other names? Why or why not?
No because you can hurt someone’s feelings, it’s rude and disrespectful
What are warning signs that someone is angry?
Face turns red, hands go into fists, breathing gets harder, start to sweat, start to yell or cry
Do emotions affect the way feel think and react to something?
Yes, a situation can trigger an emotion that then affects the way we think and react.
Mom is trying to talk to her son about his behavior at school. The son will not look at mom, and Is using his phone. Is he actively listening?
No he is not
You broke someone’s boundaries, what should you do?
Give them space, apologize, use I-statements to apologize. Ask how you can make it up to them
Brother apologizes to sister for breaking necklace. He says ” sorry I broke your necklace.” then walks away. Is this the proper way to apologize to someone?
No, you need to tell then that you are sorry for breaking the necklace AND for hurting their feelings. If the other person says it’s okay and accepts your apology, then you say you’ll give them space. If they do not accept your apology, then talk about it more.