Vocabulary
This is a prescribed guide for conduct or action. We follow these to make sure we are safe.
What are rules?
What is tell a safe adult?
To say this means to refuse, deny, reject or express disapproval of. This word is used to express a boundary and communicate that you do not want something to happen or continue.
What is say "no"?
These are your emotional state, such as being happy, sad, excited, or nervous. They help you understand what you like and what you don't like.
What are feelings?
These are people who won't hurt you or intentionally confuse you. They listen to and consistently respect boundaries and follow the rules.
What are safe friends and/or safe adults?
To say this means to refuse, deny, reject, or express disapproval of. This word is used to express a boundary and communicate that you do not want something to happen or continue.
What is saying no?
An adult is at your house, and they tickle you and you say "No! Please stop that," but they continue to tickle you. This makes you start to sweat and you want to scream really loud.
What is try to leave the situation and find a safe adult?
It’s never too late to place this, or strengthen it, or reinstate it. Proper ones are essential for healthy relationships and protection.
What is a boundary?
When you are with a safe adult or safe friend (someone who listens to you, consistently respects your boundaries, and follows the rules) and you feel happy and cared for. You feel comfortable and calm.
What is feeling safe?
These are touches that are inappropriate, could be meant to hurt or scare, or are contrary to the touching rules.
What are unsafe touches?
These are the limits that define one person as separate from another or from others. They vary depending on the relationship with the other person.
What are boundaries?
Someone tells you about a prank they are planning on doing to someone that you realize could hurt the person, but you’re also told not to tell anyone.
What is share something like this with your safe adults, and also with the friend who is going to be pranked? (You could also ask the other friend not to do the prank at all.)
This is what we should do if someone tried to touch a private body part or touches you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.
What is say no and find a safe adult?
This might be how you feel if someone touches you in a way you don't like or that is unsafe.
What is:
1. stomach feels yucky or funny inside
2. start sweating
3. hands feel clammy
4. feeling sad or confused
These are those very few adults who can see or touch our private body parts but ONLY for the purpose of keeping us safe, clean, and healthy. Example: Doctors
What are special safe adults?
Something kept hidden, never told or unexplained. These exclude others and have potential to harm.
What are secrets?
The cashier at the store gives you the wrong change.
What is say: “Excuse me, I don’t believe you gave me back the right amount of money.”
We should have this for ourselves and for others. Having this for ourselves means we understand our dignity and value as a person, and work to create or maintain boundaries to protect ourselves. Having this for another’s boundaries means you care about them, and won’t do anything that would intentionally bring them harm.
What is respect?
To feel uneasy, anxious, or embarrassed (such as when your face starts to feel hot and get red because you tripped on the playground in front of your friends).
What is discomfort or uncomfortable?
These are revealed, temporary, and meant to be shared with others. They are inclusive, have potential to bring joy and are fun. These never involve threats.
What are safe surprises?
What is uncomfortable?
Your dad’s best friend keeps touching you a lot. It’s not on your private parts, but it’s making you feel uncomfortable. Your family is right there and they don’t notice anything weird.
What is be assertive and set boundaries? (Reminder: You have a right to tell people you don't like a certain touch even if it's not on a private part. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, tell that person or find someone you trust to help you set boundaries.)
These are three things we can do when we feel uncomfortable.
What is:
1. Tell them to stop or say no (communicate your boundary)
2.Try to leave the situation (if possible)
3. Find and talk to a safe adult as soon as possible
4. Talk to a safe adult about how it made you feel
These are five thing that your body may feel or do when you are uncomfortable or unsafe.
What is:
freeze, clammy or sweaty hands, shake all over, feel very cold or "shivery," heart starts racing, feel stuck, feel sick (about to throw up), scream or yell, cry, feel sad, feel lonely, dizzy, confused, disconnected
This is why safety boundaries are important.