The Horsemen
Name this Horseman: The act of implying the other person has character trait flaws. Use blaming language, or making sweeping generalizations.
What is criticism
Name this antidote: Take a 20 minute break, use coping strategies such as deep breathing, walking and exercising are some antidotes to which horseman?
What is stonewalling
Name this Horseman activity
~ walks away ~
What is stonewalling
Name this Horseman: Stonewalling, avoidance, deflection, physical withdrawal, refusal to discuss.
What is stonewalling
The antidote to defensiveness is...
What is trying to validate partners perception and reality and take responsibility for your own part.
"Why am I supposed to check the levels when its their job to do it right?!"
What is defensiveness
Name this Horseman: "why do you always single me out? Everyone does it."
What is defensiveness
Name this antidote: Building a culture of appreciation where you notice and talk about what your partner is doing right helps to combat which horseman?
What is contempt
"I'm feeling shut down right now and need to take a break. Can we talk about this in 20 minutes?"
What is an antidote to stonewalling.
Defensiveness is defined as...
What is not taking responsibility for your own actions, and refusing to accept feedback.
Humor is an antidote to which horseman?
What is defensiveness
"Oh great, I get to spend my day off with you" - said with sarcasm
What is contempt
Contempt is defined as...
What is to show hostility, mock with sarcasm, treat with disrespect.
What are the 5 ways identified as the antidote to criticism?
What is using "I" statements, focus on behavior, be specific, express empathy, and offer solutions.
"I feel frustrated and powerless when you don't let me finish my thought before you respond. I want to feel like my voice matters in this relationship. I need you to listen."
What is an antidote to criticism