Making new friends
Why should we make new friends?
-Healthy friendships can make people healthier and happier.
Name one way to maintain a friendship.
-Talk with the friend regularly
-Hangout with the friend
-Help the friend
Your friend woke up late and had to run to the bus. Your friend enters the bus sweating.
-stressed
-overwhelmed
Your friend Jake woke up late and had to run to the bus. Jake enters the bus sweating. How can you support your friend?
-give your friend a moment
-ask Jake how his is feeling
-ask Jake if he needs something
Where can you make new friends?
-In your classroom
-At lunch
-During specials
-On the bus
-At sports practice
Name one way to make a friend feel important.
-Ask about a recent event in their life (for example, "How was your hockey game yesterday?")
-Offer to help a friend if you see the friend is struggling (for example, "I see you searching all around for a pencil. You can borrow one of my pencils.")
Max usually brings a lunch to school. But, Max did not bring a lunch today because he thought today's lunch was pizza. He found out that the cafeteria ran out of pizza so lunch will actually be meatloaf.
-disappointed, frustrated, annoyed, or angry (if he doesn't like meatloaf or if he struggles with change)
-neutral (just okay)
-happy (if he likes meatloaf more than pizza)
Max usually brings a lunch to school. But, Max did not bring a lunch today because he thought today's lunch was pizza. He found out that the cafeteria ran out of pizza so lunch will actually be meatloaf. Max dislikes the meatloaf he has had at home.
-listen to Max vent for a bit
-offer a new perspective (for example, "Max, maybe you'll like the school's meatloaf.")
Introduce yourself and start a conversation.
How can you show your friend that you are listening to them while your friend tells a story?
-Look at your friend while they talk
-Do not interrupt your friend's story
-Comment on your friend's story
-Ask questions
Jeff has his first basketball game of the season tomorrow.
-excited
-nervous
-eager
Jeff has his first basketball game of the season tomorrow. Jeff is feeling nervous.
-ask Jeff why he is feeling nervous
-validate Jeff's feelings (for example, "Yeah, Jeff, the first game of my soccer season always makes me a bit nervous.")
-offer encouragement (for example, "You've been practicing a lot. I am optimistic that you are going to do well. I'm excited for you!")
Name one way to start a conversation with someone.
-Compliment the person (for example, "I like your Chicago Bulls shirt.")
-Comment about a shared experience (for example, "I thought our soccer team played so well in gym today.")
-Ask a question (for example, "I like your Chicago Bulls shirt. Who is your favorite Chicago Bulls player?")
Why do some people say, "Friendship is like a flower. Friendship needs love and care to help it grow"?
You need to regularly put energy and effort into a friendship to maintain the friendship.
Nikki needs to get an A on today's math test in order to get a B in the class. She is well rested and ready for the test.
-determined
-focused
-nervous
Nikki needs to get an A on today's math test in order to get a B in the class. She studied for the test, and she is well rested.
-offer words of encouragement (for example, "You've got this!")
How might you feel before starting a conversation with a new classmate who you want to become friends with?
You might feel a bunch of different emotions. For example, starting a conversation with a new classmate who you want to become friends with might make you feel excited or nervous because you are stepping outside your comfort zone.
Mike and Austin have been friends since 2nd grade. They used to hangout outside of school every weekend. Lately, Austin stopped asking Mike to hangout. Mike has been inviting Austin to hangout, but Austin has been saying, "Not this weekend, but maybe next weekend." What can Mike do?
Mike can talk with Austin. Mike could ask Austin why Austin hasn't been able to hangout. Mike can ask Austin if Mike said something that offended Austin. Mike can ask Austin if something challenging is going in Austin's life.
Adam feels faint during his baseball game. So, his coach pulls him off the field and gets Adam the medical help that Adam needs. Adam then feels better.
-scared
-embarrassed
-grateful that Adam is feeling better
Adam feels faint during his baseball game. So, his coach pulls him off the field and gets Adam the medical help that Adam needs. Adam then feels better, but Adam feels embarrassed.
-ask Adam if he wants to talk about what happened
-validate Adam's feelings (for example, "Yeah, it can be scary to feel faint.")
-say that many athletes have to step off the field to have their health needs taken care of