Whats The Word
the invisible lines that define the limits of acceptable behavior and interaction in a relationship, helping to create a sense of safety, respect, and healthy connection
Boundaries
Your friend has seemed off all day. Now you see your friend sitting alone at lunch. What’s a kind thing to do?
Pull friend aside and ask if they are okay, Go sit with friend and make them laugh, let an adult know they seem off today
A friend wont stop touching your things. What do you do?
Politely ask them to please not touch your things
You accidentally took your friends fav pen and never gave it back. What can you do?
Replace the pen or get them a new one, apologize
You really want to invite this new student to come to your birthday party, but you have never talked to them before. You are worried they will say no. What could you do?
Introduce yourself and allow the conversation to flow naturally and see if you build a conncection.
a belief in your friend's reliability, honesty, and integrity
trust
You’re starting a group project and notice your friend starting to fidget and seem uncomfortable.A student points it out and laughs. How can you respond
A peer in class keeps messing with your hair as they sit behind you. The peer enjoys attention and wants the class to laugh. How can you set a boundary?
Please keep your hand to yourself and stop touching me
You bit your friends head off after having a bad weekend. What can you do?
Take accountability for your words and share some reasoning
You have been feeling left out of your friend group. What can you do?
Have an open honest conversation with your whole group and see how we can make things better
the process of ending a dispute and reaching an agreement that satisfies all parties involved
conflict resolution
You notice a group outside. Two of your friends start pushing each other. What can you do?
FIRST go tell an adult, try and gain one friends attention while remaining safe
A student is getting very aggressive and competitive during gym. How can you set a boundary? Should you tell and adult?
You are getting very aggressive can you tone it down a bit? and definitely tell an adult
You see your friend sitting alone outside crying after you told them you didn’t want to play with them. What can you do ?
You notice that your classmates are picking on the quieter kid in class. What can you do?
Tell and adult, stand up for the student, " I bet you wouldn't want to be talked to that way just leave them alone"
Expressing thoughts and feelings freely and honestly
open communication
Its your friends birthday! They don't want to come to school on there birthday. What is something you can do to make them feel special that DOESNT involve spending money on a gift
make a card for your friend or a sweet treat!, make plans that don't involve money, send a thoughtful message, have the class sing happy birthday etc
You have been good friends for awhile. You notice they are gravitating towards a group of kids that are always causing trouble and this makes you uncomfortable. How can you set a bounadry?
"I love being friends but I have notice your are hanging out with people that are not kind and cause alot of trouble. I don't want to tell you who you can and cant be friends with but if you start to hangout with them more I may need to reevaluate our friendship."
You accidentally spilled your water on your friend and the other peers in class are laughing at them. What do you do?
You take your friend to the nurse to see if they have a change of clothes, take responsibility for your actions and apologize
Your best friend is telling your secret to there other friend group. What can you do?
Have a real conversation with your friend and set a new boundary and let them know you will have to rethink this friendship if this happens again
the ability to understand and share the feelings of another
empathy
You and a friend have not been getting along. It has been this way for awhile now. How do you kindly end a friendship?
" I feel we are drifting apart and need some space" " I feel like our friendship has changed and is no longer serving us"
You have been best friends for years. Ever since 6th grade there older brother get too rough with you and tries to "play fight". How can you set a boundary?
"I know we have gotten close over the years but it makes me really uncomfortable when you try and wrestle with me can you please stop"
You gave your friends snapchat to someone and now they are being bullied. Your friend has blocked you. What do you do?
First you approach the friend and try your best to apologize for your actions. If this does not work you might have to accept that your friend doesn't want to be your friend at this very moment.
Your friend has been experiencing depression. They shared with you that they are self-harming. What do you do?
You tell a trusted adult immediately you explain to your friend you are doing whats best for them to keep them safe, validate there feelings and give space.