Making Friends
T or F : Your Family members can be your Friends
TRUE
T or F : A good friend will tell her friends what to do?
FALSE
IF someone is using something that you want to use, is okay to just take it from them?
No!
What is a different option?
T or F : It is unfair to tell a friend that they can only be friends with you
TRUE
T or F: You will NEVER have a fight or argument with a friend or family member
FALSE
Ask for help
Say hello
A friend wants to play a specific game and you don't want to. What can you do?
Compromise!
A compromise is when you come together and form a plan where both friends are happy.
For example:
You can play their game for a while and then yours.
You talk about what you want to play and come up with a new game that has parts of each game.
When taking turns, ________________ gets to play
EVERYONE
How does this feel?
You and your friends are playing together and another girl comes up and asks to join. You say yes and your other friend says no.
How does the girl feel? What can we do?
The friend asking might feel confused and sad.
Ask you friend if she can play
Tell them both you think they would like each other. Let's take time getting to know each other.
Remind your friend that it can be fun with more people.
Your friend made you feel upset - sad or angry - what can you do to prevent you from saying something mean?
Talk to a staff
Walk away
Take deep breaths
Say, "this makes me upset and I need space"
What are the first 3 things that you do when making a new friend?
Introduce yourself with a greeting
Ask them a question
Ask them if they want to play with you.
Share 3 things you can do to maintain a friendship.
Accept your friends for who they are
Respect your friends feelings
Spend time with your friend
Be honest
Listen
Admit when you are wrong and apologize
List 3 different situations when you would take turns
playing games
working on group projects
having conversations
Your friend makes plans to play with someone else, share 3 ways you can respond to this
tell your friend that you hope they have a good time
find something else to do
ask if they are okay if you join too
List 3 unhealthy ways to solve a problem and then 3 healthy ways to solve a problem
Unhealthy
getting angry, yelling, calling names, hitting
Healthy
talking about it, compromises, getting advice, spend time away
There's a new member who is your age at the Boys and Girls Club. What can you do?
Introduce yourself
Help show them the around the Club
Ask them to play
Discover common interests
What should you do?
You want to have some time alone, but your friend is asking you to play. What should you do?
Listen to your friend and respect their feelings- tell them NICELY that you want time alone.
Ask if they would like to play later.
Tell them Thank You for asking to play.
What should you do?
You and your friends want to make some build a fort. This involves is finding materials, making a plan, and actually building. What can you do to work together as a team?
Take turns
Listen to the different ideas
Build it together
Say, "good job" when someone does something you like.
Spend time in the fort equally
What should you do?
Your friend gets invited to play in the gym with some other kids but you want to go to the art room.
Keep your plan since you love doing art and don't love soccer
tell your friend to have fun and that you're planning to do art instead
See if they want to play later
What should you do?
You and a friend got into an argument. Now you are not talking and it doesn't seem like you can fix it. What can you do?
Get some help from someone else
Meet as a group with a staff to talk about it
Apologize for anything you did to hurt their feelings and say you want to try to do differently in the future.
There's a new member at the Club. What would you NOT do?
Ignore them
Tell them they can't play with you
Say you already have enough friends.
What should you NOT do?
You ask a friend to play and they say they want time alone. It feels disappointing and you're sad. What should you not do?
Yell at them for saying no
Tell them that you're not friends
Say you never want to talk to them again
You want to build a fort and your friends come say they want to join. What should you not do?
Say no
Tell them what they can help with and can't help with
Not listen to their ideas
Not let them play inside the fort
Make them clean up
Your friend gets invited to play soccer in the gym and you want to go to the art room.
What should you NOT do?
Get angry and tell your friend that you won't be friends with them anymore if they go play soccer
Try to change her mind into going to the art room with you instead.
Say mean things
What should you NOT do?
You and your friend got into an argument. Now you are not talking and it doesn't look like you can fix it. What should you not do?
Argue and yell at each other
Tell them you never want to be their friend again
Talk about them behind their back and say mean things to other people