FRIENDSHIP FOUNDATIONS
COMMUNICATION COUNTS
CONFLICT CORNER
RED FLAGS OR GREEN FLAGS
PROBLEM SOLVERS
100

Name of good quality in a friend

What are kindness, honesty, loyalty, trust, respect, etc
100

What does it mean to be an “active listener”?

Pay attention, make eye contact, don’t interrupt

100

Is conflict always bad?

No-In fact, conflict can be healthy when it’s handled the right way! It gives friends a chance to talk honestly, understand each other better, and grow stronger together.

100

A friend supports you even when you’re not around.

GREEN

100

Name one step in solving a problem calmly.

Listen, talk it out, find compromise

200

TRUE OR FALSE: A good friend NEVER disagrees with you

FALSE: A good friend can disagree with you — and that’s healthy! True friendship means respecting each other’s opinions, even when they’re different. Good friends can disagree respectfully and still care about and support each other. 

200

What is an “I-statement”? Give an example

“I feel ___ when ___ because ___.” An “I-statement” is a healthy way to express your feelings without blaming or attacking someone else. 

“I feel hurt when you don’t include me in group projects because I want to be part of the team.”

200

Name one of the five conflict styles.

Avoiding, Competing, Accommodating, Compromising, Collaborating

200

A friend pressures you to do something wrong.

RED

200

What does “see both sides” mean?

“See both sides” means trying to understand how each person feels and what each person is thinking in a situation — not just your own point of view. 

It’s about using empathy — putting yourself in someone else’s shoes — to understand why they might see things differently.

300

Why is it important to be honest in friendships?

It’s important to be honest in friendships—especially in middle school—because honesty builds trust, respect, and strong communication.

300

Why does tone of voice matter when speaking to others?

It affects how our message is received. Even if your words are kind, your tone can make them sound rude, angry, or sarcastic. In middle school friendships, this is especially important because tone helps others understand your true feelings and can prevent misunderstandings or hurt feelings 

300

Which conflict style is the healthiest for friendships?

The healthiest conflict style for friendships is collaboration.

Collaboration means both people work together to find a solution that respects everyone’s feelings and needs. Instead of trying to “win” an argument, both friends listen, share how they feel, and come up with a plan that works for both sides.

300

Why are boundaries important?

They protect feelings and self-respect

300

One way to ask an adult for help respectfully?

“Can we talk?” or “I need help solving a problem.”

400

Give one way you can show support to a friend who is upset

Listen, comfort, include them, write a note...

400

Name one nonverbal way we communicate respect

Eye contact, nodding, relaxed body language

400

What’s the first thing you should do before reacting in conflict?

The first thing you should do before reacting in a conflict is to pause and take a deep breath.

When you take a moment to calm down, you give your brain time to think instead of just reacting with anger or frustration. This helps you make a smarter, kinder choice in how you respond.

400

A friend gets jealous when you hang with others — which flag?

RED

400

Why is it important to stay calm in conflict?

It’s important to stay calm in conflict because staying calm helps you think clearly, communicate respectfully, and solve the problem instead of making it worse.

500

What’s more important—being popular or being kind? Explain

Being kind; popularity fades, kindness builds connection

500

What can you do if a friend misunderstands your tone in a text message?

Clarify kindly; talk face-to-face

500

Why might avoiding conflict sometimes cause bigger problems later?

Issues build up and feelings go unresolved

500

Give one example of a green-flag friendship behavior.

Honest, trustworthy, apologizes, kind.

500

Example of compromise in real life.

Taking turns, finding middle ground