Social Mysteries
What is a social mystery?
A mystery about other people that is puzzling and sometimes difficult to understand.
What is a social detective?
Someone who solves social mysteries! (everyone in this group is a social detective!)
What is "mood missing"?
Missing the feeling or mood that someone is trying to share.
What is one example of a WHY mystery?
Why were they mad at me?
Why didn't they want to play a game with me?
(Any mystery that asks why someone did something confusing)
Who is involved in a social mystery?
Anyone! Friends, teachers, parents, siblings, cousins, classmates...
What does it mean to look from other points of view?
It means that two people can look at the same thing and see it differently.
How do you identify the mood of what someone is sharing?
listen for emotional words, look at their facial expression and tone of voice
What emotion is this character feeling and how do you know?
Sadness
Looking down, crying, tone of voice, posture
What is an example of a social mystery?
Any example of situation involving other people people that is confusing.
What is an example of two different points of view?
Any example involving two friends who see the same thing, but have different thoughts or feelings about it.
What is one reason someone might miss the mood of a story?
1) They were not paying attention
2) They were not interested
3) They felt uncomfortable
How would you effectively respond to this character's mood?
Something that acknowledges her sadness.
What is a HOW mystery?
A mystery about "how" to do something.
For example: How do I tell my friend that I would like to play a different game?
How do I tell my friend that I didn't get a turn?
What is a prime suspect in a social mystery?
The specific problem that is causing difficulty in a social situation.
Why is it important to pay attention to someone's mood when they are talking?
It lets people know that we care about them, what they say is important, strengthens our relationships. People like for us to understand their mood more than their thoughts or ideas.
Did the parents in this scene respond effectively to their daughter's mood or did they mood miss? What would be a better way to respond?
What are the 4 types of social mysteries?
Why mysteries
When mysteries
How mysteries
What mysteries
Name TWO of the 6 keys to gathering facts:
1) Collect all facts are write them down
2) Have ears and eyes open for clues
3) Pay attention to what people say and how they say it
4) Try to look from others points of view
5) Look for clues in surrounding events
6) Always check the facts
What does it mean to reflect, validate, and empathize with someone's mood?
Reflect: say the mood you see
Validate: say it makes sense that they feel that way
Empathize: say a time that you remember feeling that same way
How could the parents in this scene have responded more effectively to their daughter's mood?
Noticed that she seemed embarrassed and say that they understood how she might be feeling.