Boundaries
Name a friendship boundary that is important to you
*student response*
What tribe is Miss Williams in?
Lealtad
What is an I-Message?
Telling someone how you feel, what it is that bothered you, and what you want to be different
*student provides example*
Anthony is little bigger than Avery. Lately, Avery has been going around calling Anthony big back and cracking up. Which boundary is being crossed?
Joking
True or False: Friendships should have boundaries
True
What is essential number 2?
Always use respectful gestures, words, and actions.
Name 3 ways you can manage your frustration with friendship problems
Explain the friendship boundary problem - Chit chatting about a friend negative vs. positive
Saying something positive or nice about a friend vs. saying something mean about a friend or sharing their personal business
McKenna likes to poke people, kind of hard, to get their attention. Her friend said "ow" when McKenna did it but McKenna said "Omg, that wasn't even that hard." Which boundary is being crossed?
Touching
What is a friendship boundary?
•Lines that separate “respectful and fun” actions from “disrespectful and annoying” actions
How old is Occoquan?
98 years old
Role play a scenario where your friend is controlling who you sit with at lunch and using an I-Message to handle the situation
Name 3 of the friendship boundary problems
Joking, Do this, Chit Chat, BFF, Touching
Farah's friend Jamie was very smart and super fun, so Farah thought most of her ideas were great. Sometimes, though, Farah didn't like how Jamie would say things like "You have to do it this way" or "if you don't do it, we won't be friends." Which boundary is being crossed?
Do this
Telling your friend that they cannot speak to your other friends because you're upset with them is a healthy boundary
False
What state is Mr. Lint from?
Pennsylvania
Your friend does something that puts you in the red zone. Name two ways to handle this situation.
Walk away to cool off since you're in the red zone
Take deep breaths and speak to a trusted adult
What is an example of exclusion?
Telling other people "you can't sit with us" or turning your back and ignoring them if they do
Kevin, Mariah, and Camille have been neighbors and friends since they were really young. Sometimes Mariah will say things to Kevin like "let's now play with Camille today" or tell Camille "we're going to hang out just us at recess."
BFF
Why are boundaries important?
They help you to have healthy friendships - to let others know what is and what is not okay with you
The word Occoquan is from what Algonquian Doeg word meaning?
"at the end of the water"
Practice using an I-Message towards a friend that has been teasing you
What is the difference in the friendship problem Do this: Idea vs. Control?
Giving an idea of what to do or encouraging vs. telling a friend they have to do something
Chit Chat