Good Friend Moves
Your friend is nervous about a big test. What is a good friendship behavior you could show?
Encourage them, offer to study together, or tell them you believe in them. Good friends support each other through stressful moments.
You're telling your friend about your weekend and they keep looking at their phone. Why is this a friendship fail?
It shows they're not actively listening. Good friends give their full attention and make the other person feel valued and heard.
You overhear someone spreading a rumor about your friend. What would you do?
Stand up for your friend by calmly telling the person that spreading rumors isn't cool, then let your friend know what happened.
FRIEND or PRETENDER? Your friend always agrees with everything you say and never shares their own opinion.
PRETENDER. This seems nice but it's not authentic. Real friends can respectfully disagree. Always agreeing might mean they're not being genuine.
You and your friend had an argument over something small and haven't talked in two days. What's a good first step to fix it?
Be the one to reach out first. A simple 'Hey, I don't like that we're not talking. Can we work this out?' shows maturity.
A new student joins your class mid-year and doesn't know anyone. Name TWO things a good friend would do.
Introduce yourself, invite them to sit with you at lunch, show them around, or include them in activities. Good friends make others feel welcome.
Your friend shares your embarrassing moment with other kids at school to get laughs. What friendship rule did they break?
They broke TRUST and RESPECT. Using someone's vulnerability for social points is a major friendship fail that damages the relationship.
Your friend copies your answers on a test and the teacher suspects YOU of cheating. What would you do?
Talk to your friend privately first and explain how their actions affected you. Then be honest with the teacher. A real friend wouldn't put you in that position.
FRIEND or PRETENDER? Your friend tells you honestly (but kindly) that your presentation needs more work before you turn it in.
FRIEND. Honest, constructive feedback is a sign of a REAL friend. They care more about your success than just telling you what you want to hear.
Your friend apologizes to you but you're still feeling hurt. Is it okay to not accept the apology right away? Why or why not?
YES. It's okay to say 'I appreciate your apology, but I need a little more time.' Forgiveness is a process, not a switch.
Your friend makes the basketball team but you didn't. What does a good friend do in this situation?
Congratulate them and be happy for their success, even though you're disappointed. A good friend can celebrate others without making it about themselves.
A friend gets mad at you for hanging out with other people during lunch. What is wrong with this behavior?
This is possessive/controlling behavior. Healthy friendships allow both people to have other friends. No one should make you feel guilty for socializing with others.
You accidentally say something that hurts your friend's feelings and they walk away upset. What would you do?
Give them a moment, then approach them sincerely. Acknowledge what you said, apologize WITHOUT making excuses, and ask how you can make it right.
FRIEND or PRETENDER? A classmate is super friendly to you when you're alone but ignores you when the 'popular' kids are around.
PRETENDER. This is a 'conditional' friendship. A real friend treats you the same regardless of who's watching.
You realize YOU were the one being a bad friend - you've been ditching plans and not texting back. How do you fix it?
Own it directly: 'I know I haven't been a great friend lately, and I'm sorry. You deserve better and I want to do better.' Then FOLLOW THROUGH with actions.
Your best friend tells you a personal secret. What makes your response a 'good friend move'?
Keep it to yourself and don't share it with others. Trust is one of the most important parts of friendship - breaking it can damage the relationship permanently.
Your friend only texts you when they need help with homework but ignores your messages otherwise. What pattern is this?
This is a ONE-SIDED friendship. Real friendship goes both ways - both people should give AND receive support, not just one person benefiting.
You notice your friend has been sitting alone, seems sad, and has been pulling away from the group for weeks. What would you do?
Reach out privately and let them know you've noticed and you care. Say something like 'I've noticed you seem down - I'm here if you want to talk.' If worried about their safety, tell a trusted adult.
FRIEND or PRETENDER? Your friend cancels plans with you because a family emergency came up, but texts you later to reschedule.
FRIEND. Life happens and good friends understand that. The key is they communicated, explained, and made the effort to reschedule. That shows respect.
Two friends in your group are fighting and it's making everyone uncomfortable. What can you do as the person in the middle?
Don't pick sides. Encourage both friends to talk it out directly. You can offer to be there when they talk, but avoid playing messenger. Say: 'I care about both of you - let's figure this out together.'
Your friend group is making weekend plans but one friend can't afford the activity everyone wants to do. What would a truly good friend suggest?
Suggest a different activity everyone can do together, or find a way to include them without embarrassing them. Great friends prioritize the person over the plan.
Two of your friends are in a fight. One of them asks you to pick a side and stop talking to the other. What makes this a friendship fail?
Forcing someone to choose sides is MANIPULATIVE. A real friend respects your other relationships. The mature move is encouraging them to work it out, not creating sides.
Your friend group is planning to exclude one person from a party because they think that person is 'annoying.' What would you do?
Speak up against exclusion - explain that leaving someone out on purpose is bullying. Suggest including them. If the group won't listen, that tells you something about the group.
FRIEND or PRETENDER? Your friend constantly compares themselves to you - grades, clothes, sports - and gets upset when you do well.
PRETENDER. Constant comparison and jealousy are toxic to friendships. A real friend celebrates your wins.
You've tried multiple times to fix a friendship but the other person keeps being disrespectful, dismissive, and hurtful. What's the healthy choice?
Sometimes the fix is walking away. Not every friendship is meant to last. Staying in a toxic friendship teaches you to tolerate mistreatment. Setting boundaries - including ending a friendship - is a sign of self-respect.