Boundaries
What is a boundary?
A boundary is a limit that you don't want someone to pass.
True of False - A good friend is trustworthy.
True! A trustworthy friend is someone you can depend on.
A true friend will
A) try to convince you to do something you don't want to do
B) be sensitive to your wants and needs.
B) Be sensitive to your wants and needs - A true friend should make you feel comfortable when you hang out, not make you feel pressured to do things you aren't sure about.
True or False: When you make a mistake, you should honestly admit to having done it and apologize for it, if necessary.
True - If you do then people will know you take responsibility for your actions, and they will then trust you more because you're honest and show that you learn from your mistakes.
When do you want to set a boundary?
You can set a boundary when someone is being unkind or disrespectful of you.
Thoughtfulness requires that you are:
A. an active listener
B. Only thinking about yourself
An active listener! You must pay attention to what other people have to say in order to be thoughtful towards them later on.
True or False: When we feel like we can't trust somebody, we sometimes can't believe what they say.
True! Always tell the truth, even if it's hard.
When first becoming friends with someone, you should share
A) your likes and dislikes or
B) your deepest, darkest secrets.
A) Your likes, dislikes, goals, etc. - Even friends shouldn't normally know private information that doesn't effect them, but they should be able to get to know your personality and passions.
What is a good friend?
A good friend is kind, helpful, honest, and lets you be yourself!
In order to have a good friend, you must be a
____ friend.
good
How can you tell if someone is a good friend?
He or she is trustworthy, compromises, and always wants to do what is best for you.
Which of these is an example of being a bad friend?
A) Including everyone in your games
B) Setting a boundary
C) Telling a friend bad things about another person so that they will like you better than the other person.
C) Telling a friend bad things about someone so that they will like you better than the other person.
True or False - Is setting a boundary mean?
False! Setting a boundary is not mean and allows others to know how you want to be treated.
True or False - Compromise is never a good solution. Only think about yourself.
False - Sometimes it is okay for both people to get some of what they want in order for them to get along. Compromise isn't a good solution if it means letting someone violate your boundaries.
True or False: If you have a hobby that you really enjoy doing, you can probably guess that there are others out there who feel the same, and you could potentially start a friendship.
True! Sharing the same interests is a great way to start a friendship.
Give an example of what setting a boundary might sound like.
No speaking on the phone after 10:00 PM.
What are the 'magic words' that are a very important part of taking responsibility for making a mistake?
I'm sorry!
When you get a gift or present for a friend, why is it important to give them something that is related to their likes or interests and not just yours?
In a nutshell, because that way you show that you were really thinking about them and paid attention to what they said they like.