Long Term Relationships
In a long term relationship, should your significant other know your address or birthday?
Yes
Is it important to communicate and share your feelings and wishes within the relationship? Why?
Yes.
Where wouldn't it be appropriate to propose to someone?
The bathroom, a dump, a funeral, someone else's wedding, a graduation ceremony, at somebody else's baby shower, etc. *any other ideas*
Yes or No: The person you are dating wants to control where you go, and who you hang out with. Is this a red flag?
Yes. This is a red flag. Your partner should not control what you do or who your friends are, but be supportive
Yes, for safety reasons, it's a good idea to let others know where you are going so they don't worry about you.
When should we meet each other's parents/families?
(3 to 6 month mark)
Whenever you feel comfortable introducing them.
If a person I am in a long term relationship with says they do not want to be intimate, is that ok?
Yes. That person has bodily autonomy (freedom of choice) and this should be respected.
How long until I can propose to someone?
There is no set number, but you should be in a long-term committed relationship with the person, and know each others values and priorities in life.
Should you and your partner try to change each other?
No. You do not have control over others, and you should love the person as they are, and work towards solutions together, not force them to change
If someone in the house upsets me, it's ok to yell at them, call them names, and throw things
FALSE!! It would be a good idea to take a break and then talk to house manager
How do you know if your significant other is cheating on you?
Trust is important in a relationship, but if the person seems to be hiding things, or avoiding you, and you see signs that they are being intimate with someone else, that could be something to explore
How can I build trust with my significant other?
Communicate openly and honestly, but with kindness.
Should there be more things I like or dislike about the person when I propose to them?
More things I like
What if we have fights that last for days?
It would be helpful to talk about it. Not doing so could lead to more fighting, and not resolve the problem.
A girl asks me to sneak out of the house. Is this safe or not safe?
Not safe. Especially if I don't know her. It could get us into trouble, or jeopardize me living in the house.
What are some acts of kindness in a relationship?
Any,
buying your favorite snacks, cleaning the house, washing your car, cooking your favorite meal, driving, massages, etc.
What if there is something I don't like about my partner that they do?
You could bring it up to them nicely, with respect. For example, "Could you please brush your teeth before we kiss? I enjoy it much more," vs. "Ew your breath stinks!"
Should I ask my significant other's parents for permission before I propose?
Some people choose to do this out of respect, and it's seen as being polite.
What if my partner tells others very personal things about me?
Then this is a violation of privacy and respect, and is a red flag.
I just went on a date with a girl and she asks when we are getting married. Should I propose?
No. You don't know each other that well
How do we talk about things like marriage and children?
Is it important to say something kind and nice to the person before we go to bed? Should we go to bed upset?
It is nice to resolve conflict before going to sleep, and it is good to end on a nice note.
Should you talk about marriage with your significant other before proprosing?
Yes
Yes. Your partner should give you space and respect your boundaries.
If the house manager says I need to stay, but I want to leave, I should get on a bus and leave any way
No. I should call my parents and see if they can help me understand the situation.