True or False
T/F: Generational curses only affect Black American families.
F; Generational curses (divorce, anger, drug abuse) can affect all races including white, Asian, etc.
What does the phrase ‘Generational Curses’ mean?
What is “Generational Curses is a doctrine that individuals inherit the judgement for the sin of their ancestors”
Pick a family member and decide who would be more likely to get defensive if they were told something they did not want to hear. Explain why you think that.
Ex: You could pick yourself, the other person or both and describe why.
Pick a family member and guess their favorite thing to eat.
Pizza, meatloaf, chips, oranges.
Describe a positive moment you experienced with another family member.
Ex: when they came to visit me in the hospital, our time together at a football game, etc
T/F: Generational curses cannot be broken.
False, yes they can be broken
Describe at least 2 generational curses you believe are within your family.
Examples; divorce, drug use, drop out, incarceration, etc
Pick a family member and describe how they are when sad
Ex: they stay in their room all day and away from others, ignore their family, “be mean”, etc
Ask a family member to write down their most memorable moment with you. Then, try to guess it.
Going to the beach, going to your favorite restaurant together, etc
Describe a situation you had with another family member using the word “nice”.
Ex: it was nice of my (family member) to wash and fold my clothes for me
T/F: Most people who adopt negative behaviors from their parents are very conscious that they have adopted those negative behaviors from their parent.
False: Some people are conscious, some are not/in auto pilot.
Where do generational curses come from?
Generational curses can from slavery, a traumatic event, the Bible etc
Pick a family member and describe how they are when angry
Ex: They are mean, have a bad attitude, throw things, etc
Pick a family member and guess their favorite color.
The color can be blue, red, orange or black.
Give a compliment to another family member.
Ex: “My (family member) is a really good artist.
T/F: It can be uncomfortable to have honest talks about how the behaviors of our family members affect us personally.
True, sometimes people can become defensive, angry or sad if they are told about things they have done that negatively affected other people.
Name a negative and positive behavior that your biological parent had that you adopted.
Negative- anger, persistent depression, physical abuse, etc
Positive- helpful to others, caring, high school/college graduate, etc
Pick a family member and guess who is more emotionally sensitive between the two of you and why?
Ex: It can be you, the other person or you both can be equally emotionally sensitive
Pick a family member and guess what they would prefer: a million dollars or $5000 a week for life
Only pick one and describe why
How do you show the other family that you care about/love them?
Ex: “I make them breakfast”, “I buy them flowers”, etc
T/F: All behaviors are genetic and cannot be changed.
False; some behaviors are genetic, but can be changed.
Provide at least two specific ways to break the common generational curse of:Divorce/parent separation or Incarceration
Divorce/parent separation- Obtain information from parents regarding lessons they learned in their past relationships, recognize things that you desire in a relationship, etc
Abuse (physical, verbal or emotional abuse)- try to understand the root ( were your parents abusive in a similar way? How did it make you feel?), understand reasons why you have adopted those behaviors
Fill in the blank: I wish my (family member) would be more _____________ with/to me.
Ex: nicer, understanding, more firm, etc
Pick a family member and guess a place you think they would like to visit
Beach, favorite restaurant, Disney World
Do you prefer from your loved one? Gifts, Kind words from them, When they do nice things for you, Their time, Hugs
Ex: Gifts, Kind words from them, When they do nice things for you, Their time, Hugs