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Working through Unfinished Business
What is:
Unfinished business or unexpressed feelings such as anger, sadness, loneliness, guilt, pain, or insecurity, though unexpressed, they are associated with distinct memories and fantasies.
Its purpose is to understand “leftovers” from previous experiences (Perls, 1969).
When experiencing a strong unwanted emotion, first, let go and feel the emotion full strength, no matter how unreasonable, dangerous, crazy it may be.
Second, go looking for hidden emotions, asking “Do I also something else?.
Third, investigate bodily sensations and emotions for more subtle additional feelings.
Fourth, ask yourself “What do these current feelings and situation remind me of in the past? And “Have I been there before?” Relive the earlier experience repeatedly until the strong emotions are drained.
Classic Examples of Intense Emotions:
Crying hides anger
Dependency suppresses anger
Excessive smiles hide depression
Physical complaints contradict anxiety
Anger overshadows fears