Conversations
When having a conversation, how many people should be talking at once?
One
True or False: Hidden rules are the ways to act in a situation that no one talks about or teaches you.
True! We have to know the situation= people + place + what's happening to know what is expected.
Name some expected behaviors when at the movie theatre.
Sit in a seat. Watch the movie. Keep your phone on silent and put away. Stay quiet.
True or false- the first step in making friends is telling someone your life story.
False- only a bonded friend should know your life story.
True or False- Nonverbals are the kind of communication done ONLY with eyes.
False- Nonverbals include thinking with eyes, but also noticing body language and facial expressions.
True or False- You should start a conversation with someone when you are across the room from each other.
False- You should first move near someone before starting a conversation with them.
How do you know if you've violated a hidden rule?
You might get negative feedback- such as a weird look, a reprimand, or someone laughing at you (not with you).
Name some expected behaviors for eating at a restaurant.
Sit in your seat. Order from the menu. Use utensils to eat your food. Eat with your mouth closed. Pay for your food.
How does friendship start?
With friendly greetings and being approachable.
Challenge- make a happy face (look happy).
The person looks happy.
How can you tell if someone has lost interest in your conversation?
The person walks away, they look unfocused or uninterested (looking around a lot), or they don't respond to you. Other ideas?
What does it mean to "read the room"?
To look around and see what the situation is- What is the place? Who are the people? What is happening here?
Name some expected behaviors for learning in the classroom at school.
Listen to the teacher. Do your work. Have a calm body.
What does it mean to be approachable?
To look friendly (or not mean). To greet people. To think about people with your eyes (without staring).
Challenge- make a surprised face.
The person looks surprised.
This is an often overlooked part of a conversation.
Listening to the words that are said.
True or False- Online/Virtual environments do not have hidden rules because it's not in person.
False- online environments have hidden rules too!
Name some expected behaviors for playing at the playground.
Running. Jumping rope. Playing on equipment. Being loud.
Challenge- give a friendly greeting to someone
The person used their eyes to look at someone and then said hi, gave a small wave, or a head nod.
Challenge- make an angry face.
The person looks angry.
This is how you show someone you are interested in what they are saying.
Listening. Asking questions. Thinking about the person with your eyes. Nodding along when you agree. Asking questions about what was said.
How does it make others feel when people abide by the hidden rules?
Calm and comfortable- people can relax b/c you are doing what is expected.
Name some expected behaviors for using a public bathroom.
Wait your turn. Close the door for privacy. FLUSH. Wash hands.
Name 2 qualities of a good friend.
Caring. Trustworthy. Nice.
Other ideas?
Challenge- show a confused face
The person looked confused.