Expected vs. Unexpected
You're going on a field trip with your class and your teacher puts you in a group with students you don't like. You tell at the teacher "Why did you put me with them?! I hate them!"
Is this an expected or unexpected behavior? Will the outcome of this behavior be negative or positive?
Negative
Anna just found out that her two best
friends bought matching halloween
costumes, but they didn’t include her.
1. How do you think Anna feels?
2. What cues (verbal or nonverbal) would let you know a person is feeling this way?
When someone feels this way they may frown, be hunched over, cry, etc
During recess, your friend accidentally bumps into you while playing basketball in positive PE. How would you classify this problem?
Small Problem-Can be solved independently
"I'm just not good at math and never will be."
Fixed Mindset
Mia is playing with her phone her little brother accidentally breaks it. She starts crying and feels very upset. What emotion is Mia experiencing?
Sadness
You are on the city bus with your friends. You decide to play music really loud without headphones and sing along.
Is this an expected or unexpected behavior? Will the outcome of this behavior be negative or positive?
Unexpected
Negative
Kira has really been looking forward to her halloween costume being delivered. She just got an email today that her costume is going to be delayed, and now it won’t arrive before Halloween.
1. What is the problem?
2. How do you think Kira feels?
3. What cues (verbal or nonverbal) would let you know someone feels this way?
The problem is her costume won't be delivered on time so she won't have a costume to wear.
She might feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, devastated
When someone feels this way they might frown, have closed fists, glare
You notice a student being repeatedly bullied by a group of older kids after school while you wait to get a ride. How would you classify this situation?
Large Problem-will need adult help to solve it
"If I can't solve a problem quickly, I should give up."
Fixed Mindset
Lily is waiting for her turn to get her lunch Another girl cuts in front of her in line. Lily's face turns red and she crosses her arms tightly. What emotion is Lily feeling?
Anger/Frustration
Your mom asks you to take out the garbage. You do it as soon as she asks.
Is this behavior expected or unexpected? Will the outcome be positive or negative?
Expected
Positive
Your friend Maya introduces you to her grandma, who is over 80 years old. What could you say?
A. Say, "Wow! I don't think I've ever seen skin as wrinkled as yours."
B. Smile and say, "Maya has told me a lot about you. It's nice to meet you"
C. Frown and ask, "Are you afraid that you might die soon?"
D. Say, "I think you're about the same age as my grandpa. He always tells great stories"
B
Your best friend tells you they're thinking of running away from home because their parents set rules they don't like. How would you classify this situation?
Large Problem-Tell a trusted adult immediately
"I can get better at this with practice."
Growth Mindset
Emma's friend tells her a funny joke and she can't stop laughing. What emotion is Emma experiencing?
Happiness
Your best friend tells you about the boy she likes. After she tells you, you go tell 5 other people.
Is this expected or unexpected behavior? Will the outcome of this behavior be negative or positive?
Unexpected
Negative
There’s a new girl in social studies class today. She has a large, purple birthmark on her face. Your teacher introduces her to the class by saying, “This is Carla. She just moved here over the weekend.” What could you say?
A. After class, smile and say to her, "I hope you'll like it here."
B. Quickly look away form the girl whenever she looks towards you
C. Say, "Welcome to our class. Let me know if you need any help."
D. Ask, "What is that all over your face? It looks kind of gross."
C or A
A student in your class is crying because they miss their parent. How would you classify this situation?
Small Problem-Offer comfort or tell a teacher
"This challenge will help me grow."
Growth Mindset
Taylor sees a big spider on the wall and screams, running away quickly with her heart beating fast. What emotion is Taylor showing?
Fear
Define expected behavior.
Define unexpected behavior.
Expected behavior: things people do that otherpeople think are friendly, helpful, and respectful to others.
Unexpected behavior: things people do that otherpeople think are hurtful, disrespectful, unusual, and confusing to others.
Because of my work schedule, we need to do our chores as a team. The bathroom, kitchen and bedrooms don’t look like you’ve been holding up your end of the deal. If you want to hang out with your friends on the weekend, you need to take care of your chores during the week. This is your last warning. Before you leave today, take care of things. I’d better see some improvements over the next week.
1. Why did your parent say these things?
2. What does your parent want you to do?
3. What will happen if you don't follow your parent's instructions?
1. They might be frustrated you haven't been doing your chores
2. They want you to do your chores
3. You might get grounded, they could give you extra chores, you won't be able to see your friends
You witness a classmate cheating during a math test. How would you classify this situation?
Large Problem-Tell a teacher
"When I put in effort, I get better results."
Growth Mindset
Zoe is about to go on stage for the school play. Her hands are shaking and her stomach feels funny. What emotion is Zoe experiencing?
Nervous/Anxiety