GIVE
Why do we use GIVE?
It helps us maintain relationships by being kind and calm in interactions.
What is validation?
Communicates that you understand someone’s experience.
Why do we use THINK?
This skill helps you consider the other person’s thoughts, feelings, and intentions so we do not make an assumption about the person/situation and avoid unnecessary anguish.
Your sibling is upset and yelling. You stay calm and listen.
Which skill are you practicing?
GIVE
True or False: Interpersonal effectiveness skills help you achieve goals while maintaining relationships.
True
Name one letter in GIVE and what it stands for.
Examples: G= be Gentle, I= act Interested, V=Validate, E=Easy manner
True or False: Validation means you have to agree with everything the person says.
False: You can validate someone, and still disagree and/or set boundaries with them.
What does the T in THINK stand for?
Think about it from the other person’s perspective
Your friend is frustrated after failing a test. You say, “I get why you feel upset; I’d feel the same.”
Which skill is this?
Validation
True or False: You only need interpersonal skills when you are in conflict.
False: Interpersonal effectiveness skills aim to reduce the amount of conflicts we have (and give us a roadmap to navigating conflicts)
Which is an example of using GIVE in a conversation?
A) Making an appropriate, light-hearted joke to maintain calm in the situation
B) Yelling to prove a point
C) Walking away when you feel triggered by the other person
A) Making an appropriate, light-hearted joke to maintain calm in the situation
Which of the following is a validating statement?
A) “Stop being so dramatic!”
B) “I can see why that would frustrate you.”
C) "Aww, I'm so sorry that happened to you!"
B) “I can see why that would frustrate you.”
If your friend ignores your text, what is a THINK-based question you could ask yourself?
“Maybe they are busy or stressed, not ignoring me on purpose”
You consider your teacher’s perspective before explaining why you missed homework.
Which skill is this?
THINK
How might GIVE, THINK, or validation help prevent us from getting pulled into drama?
Examples: They help us stay grounded, effective, decrease defensiveness with the person we're talking to
Why is using GIVE important even when someone is upset with you?
It prevents escalation and keeps relationships healthy
Name one way to validate someone verbally or non-verbally.
Examples: Nodding, making eye contact, reflecting feelings, paraphrasing
What are 2 things THINK stands for?
Examples: Think about it from the other person's perspective, Have empathy, consider alternative interpretations, notice what others do to improve the relationship, be kind in approach
Name a situation where you could combine GIVE + Validation + THINK.
Examples: Conflict with parent, friend argument, group project issue
Name one reason we struggle with interpersonal effectiveness.
Examples: strong emotions, peer pressure, past conflict, impulsive responses
A friend is venting angrily. How could you use all four parts of GIVE?
Example: Speak gently, show interest, validate feelings, keep body language relaxed
Why does validation reduce conflict?
It helps the other person feel heard, lowering defensiveness
Why is THINK important before responding to someone who upset you?
It prevents overreaction and promotes effectiveness
Why is practicing these skills important even in small daily interactions?
It builds habit, reduces conflict, and strengthens relationships
What are the 3 goals of interpersonal effectiveness?
1. What do I want to accomplish during this conversation?
2. How do I want this other person to feel about me by the end of the conversation?
3. How do I want to feel about myself by the end of the conversation?