G.I.V.E. Skills
What does the “G” in G.I.V.E. stand for?
Gentle
What does the “F” in F.A.S.T. stand for?
Fair
Why is self-respect important in relationships?
It helps maintain healthy boundaries and confidence.
What are the qualities of a healthy relationship?
Trust, respect, communication, honesty, and support.
How would you use G.I.V.E. skills with a difficult coworker?
Stay gentle, show interest, validate feelings, and keep an easy manner.
Why is it important to show “Interest” when communicating with others?
It shows you care and helps build connection and trust.
How does being “Fair” help preserve self-respect?
It ensures you respect both yourself and others in communication.
How do boundaries protect your self-respect?
They prevent others from taking advantage and honor your needs.
How can communication impact relationship health?
Clear and honest communication builds trust and reduces conflict.
How would F.A.S.T. skills help in a family argument?
Remain fair, don’t over-apologize, stick to values, and speak honestly.
How can “Validation” strengthen a relationship?
It helps the other person feel heard, understood, and accepted.
Why is it important to not “Apologize” unnecessarily?
Over-apologizing can make you seem less confident and minimize your needs.
Name one behavior that strengthens your self-respect.
Speaking honestly about your feelings or needs.
What role does trust play in maintaining healthy connections?
Trust fosters security and emotional safety in relationships.
Share one way you plan to practice these skills this week.
I will practice validating others and using a calm tone during disagreements.
What is an example of maintaining an “Easy manner” during a disagreement?
Using humor, staying calm, smiling, or keeping a relaxed tone.
How can “Sticking to values” help in difficult conversations?
It keeps you true to yourself and supports your integrity.
What is one risk of ignoring your self-respect to please others?
Feeling resentful, being mistreated, or losing your sense of self.
Why is it important to maintain your identity within relationships?
To avoid losing yourself or becoming overly dependent on others.
How can these skills help you in recovery?
They build healthier relationships and improve self-respect, reducing relapse risk.
How do G.I.V.E. skills promote healthier relationships?
They support respectful, kind, and patient communication, reducing conflict.
Describe a time when using F.A.S.T. would protect your integrity.
When saying no to something that violates your values, even if it’s uncomfortable.
How does DBT define “self-respect effectiveness”?
Acting in a way that aligns with your values and maintains your dignity.
How can using DBT skills change unhealthy patterns?
They help replace toxic behaviors with healthy communication and boundaries.
Describe a relationship you want to improve and how you’ll apply DBT skills.
I want to communicate more respectfully with my parent using GIVE and FAST.