Five Steps of Emotion Coaching
What do ALL children experience every day?
A. Only good emotions
B. A wide range of emotions
C. No emotions at all
D. Just anger
B. A wide range of emotions
Why does Gottman emphasize fathers?
A. Kids only listen to dads
B. When dads emotion coach, kids thrive
C. Moms don’t matter
D. Dads don’t have emotions
B. When dads emotion coach, kids thrive
Children of emotion-coaching parents usually have:
A. Better emotional skills
B. No emotions
C. More tantrums
D. No stress
A. Better emotional skills
What does validation mean?
A. Agreeing with the behavior
B. Letting kids do whatever they want
C. Acknowledging the child’s feelings
D. Ignoring the emotions
C. Acknowledging the child’s feelings
Parents’ beliefs about emotions refer to:
A. What parents think and feel about their child’s emotions
B. A child’s personality
C. School rules
D. A parent’s hobbies
A. What parents think and feel about their child’s emotions
What is the purpose of emotions, according to Gottman?
A. To annoy parents
B. To give information
C. To stop learning
D. To create drama
B. To give information
Many fathers struggle because they tend to:
A. Overthink feelings
B. Try to “fix” emotions fast
C. Talk too much
D. Teach too slowly
B. Try to “fix” emotions fast
Kids with emotion-coaching parents typically do better in:
A. Academic performance
B. Video games
C. Sports speed
D. Memorizing TV shows
A. Academic performance
Which phrase is an example of validation?
A. “Stop crying right now.”
B. “Why are you upset? There’s no reason.”
C. “I see you're frustrated. That makes sense.”
D. “You’re being dramatic.”
C. “I see you're frustrated. That makes sense.”
A parent’s beliefs about emotions strongly influence:
A. How they respond to their child during emotional moments
B. How often the child eats snacks
C. What chores the child does
D. How fast the child learns math
A. How they respond to their child during emotional moments
Which emotion tends to show up FIRST in young children?
A. Confusion
B. Complex guilt
C. Basic anger or frustration
D. Jealousy
C. Basic anger or frustration
Father involvement in emotion coaching predicts:
A. Poor grades
B. Stronger emotional and social skills
C. More fighting
D. No crying ever
B. Stronger emotional and social skills
Emotion coaching strengthens a child’s ability to:
A. Ignore problems
B. Handle stress and bounce back
C. Hide emotions
D. Be perfect
B. Handle stress and bounce back
Validation helps children feel:
A. More overwhelmed
B. More understood and calmer
C. More confused
D. More ashamed
B. More understood and calmer
Parents who believe emotions are “unimportant” or “too much trouble” often:
A. Encourage kids to talk about feelings
B. Dismiss or minimize their child’s emotions
C. Teach emotional vocabulary
D. Show patience and curiosity
B. Dismiss or minimize their child’s emotions
What do children need MOST to understand their emotions?
A. Expensive toys
B. Emotional vocabulary
C. Long lectures
D. Quiet time
B. Emotional vocabulary
According to Gottman, why does a father’s emotional involvement create extra positive impact?
A. Kids expect dads to be stricter
B. Children benefit greatly when both parents model emotional coaching
C. Dads talk more than moms
D. Dads ignore emotions less
B. Children benefit greatly when both parents model emotional coaching
Gottman found that children with emotion-coaching parents have:
A. More behavior problems
B. Lower aggression and fewer behavior issues
C. Greater fearfulness
D. More arguments
B. Lower aggression and fewer behavior issues
Why does Gottman say validation is powerful?
A. It stops emotions instantly
B. It helps calm the nervous system so kids can think again
C. It gives kids unlimited freedom
D. It teaches kids to rely on parents for every emotion
B. It helps calm the nervous system so kids can think again
Which belief reflects a healthy, positive view of emotions?
A. “Strong emotions are misbehavior.”
B. “Kids should calm down on their own.”
C. “Emotions are opportunities to connect and teach.”
D. “Feelings should be hidden.”
C. “Emotions are opportunities to connect and teach.”
Why do children sometimes have BIG emotional reactions?
A. Their brains are still developing regulation skills
B. They are misbehaving on purpose
C. They want to impress adults
D. They like chaos
A. Their brains are still developing regulation skills
What did Gottman discover about fathers who regularly practice emotion coaching?
A. Their children become dependent on praise
B. Their children show stronger long-term resilience and fewer behavior problems
C. Their children never experience negative emotions
D. Their children cry more often
B. Their children show stronger long-term resilience and fewer behavior problems
Long-term, Gottman’s research shows emotion coaching leads to:
A. Better resilience, stronger social skills, and healthier relationships
B. No conflict ever
C. Children who never get sad
D. Children who avoid emotions
A. Better resilience, stronger social skills, and healthier relationships
Which of the following BEST describes the goal of validation?
A. To erase the emotion
B. To help the child feel seen, understood, and safe before problem-solving
C. To make children dependent on comfort
D. To distract from negative feelings
B. To help the child feel seen, understood, and safe before problem-solving
Why do parents’ beliefs about emotions matter so much, according to Gottman?
A. They shape the parent’s emotional style, which directly influences the child’s long-term emotional development
B. They only affect discipline
C. They have no real impact
D. They only matter for babies
A. They shape the parent’s emotional style, which directly influences the child’s long-term emotional development