Consent
Frank is at the Cowboy with his friend and notices someone flirting with a drunk person. They keep buying them drinks and ask if they would like to go home. Seeing this, Frank decides to put himself in the situation to see if the drunk person is alright with doing this. Using the 3 D’s, which one is Frank using to be a active bystander?
Direct- by putting himself directly into the situation, Frank is now a active bystander
Jacob notices his friend Bella has been hanging out less lately since she started dating Edward. When Jacob tries to plan a hangout, Bella says that she can’t make it because Edward wants to hang out with her. What type of unhealthy relationship behavior is present with Bella’s relationship?
Isolation- because Bella has been spending a lot more time with her new partner, this relationship is displaying isolating behavior.
Skyler’s sister Marie recently matched with someone on Tinder. Things have been going smoothly, and they talk every day. However, Marie has recently been looking up their Tinder date’s house on Google Maps. Skyler recognizes this as stalking behavior and brings this up to Mary. Which of the 3D’s did Skyler use to bring up this stalking behavior to her sister?
Direct- by directly telling her sister what she doing is stalking, Skyler was able to be an active bystander in a stalking situation
This is something that may prevent you from intervening or could make an intervention hard. You can use these to inform the way you intervene.
Barriers
This resource, off campus, provides confidential advocacy and support to students.
SAFE Project
Your friend’s girlfriend is kissing all over him without asking for consent. They look very uncomfortable, and she starts making fun of them for not wanting it. You tell your friends what is happening and ask if they can come with you to help your friend. Which of the 3 D’s is being used in this scenario?
Delegate-by involving your friends, you are delegating a possible solution to this scenario
Nolan has been telling Debbie that she has been acting crazy and probably needs to go to therapy. Whenever Debbie notices inconsistencies in Nolan’s responses, he is quick to correct her and tell her information from his perspective. This is an example of…
Gaslighting
Mark’s friend William has been tracking his boyfriend on Snap Maps. Mark and William are at Lovejoy’s for dinner, and they keep checking their boyfriend’s location frequently during dinner. Noticing this stalking behavior, Mark brings this behavior up to his friends about William and to see what they can do to intervene. Which of the 3D’s has Mark used to by an active bystander?
Delegate- by bringing up William’s behavior towards his boyfriend’s location on Snap Maps, Mark was able to get their friends involved to prevent this stalking behavior.
What is the Red Zone?
The period in the semester when the most assaults happen
This type of resource cannot tell anyone, including the police or the university, what they are going through.
Confidential
Samantha is at a party, and notices some of her classmates getting into a verbal argument. They are getting uncomfortable by how intense the conversation is getting. To deter the situation, Samantha asks anyone if they want Taco Bell. During the confusion, Samantha pulls aside one of the people involved in the argument to see if everything is alright. Which of the 3 D’s did Samantha use to diffuse the situation?
Distract- by pulling her attention, Samantha diffused a situation that could have become worse by distracting them
Mark and Samantha recently started a new relationship. They enjoy being in each other’s company and have fun while hanging out. However, they recognize they both need space from each other to spend time on homework or their friends. What example of a healthy relationship is this?
Personal time away from each other
Alice works at Rolling Mill this semester and notices the same customer coming to the counter to ask about one of her coworkers. The next time Alice works with them, she asks if they know them, and they say that they don’t know that person. The next time this person comes by Alice brings in her manager to diffuse the situation. Now when this person comes to Alice’s work and asks for her coworker, her manager will engage this person.
Delegate- getting her manager involved allowed Alice to identify a potential stalker.
Which of these is a proactive Green Dot?
Wearing a Green Dot merch (pin, sticker, shirt, socks, hoodie)
This form, located on the Dean of Students website, can be used to refer to a friend that you are concerned about and get them resources that can help.
UWYO Cares
Mark and Oliver live in Downey Hall and are friends with most of the students on their floor. However, they notice that one of their friends Aaron isn’t doing the best. Aaron hasn’t been showing up to his classes and rarely comes out of his room during the weekend. Concerned for their friend, Mark and Oliver talk to their RA about Aaron’s concerning behavior. Which of the 3 D’s did Mark and Oliver use to get their friend some help?
Delegate- by involving the help from their RA, Mark and Oliver were able to help their friend when they knew they needed it the most.
Two friends just moved in together and have been spending a lot of time together. When one goes to the grocery store, the other follows. When one is watching tv in the living room, the other will be with them. However, one communicates to the other that they need some time personal time and set a clear (Answer). The other respects this and is accountable for holding it.
Boundary
Harry asks Peter if he could walk him to the dorms after class because he feels like his ex is following him. Peter is obliged to walk Harry back to the dorms to help his friend. However, Peter sees Harry’s ex when walking across Prexy’s. To help Harry, Peter goes up to his ex to strike up a conversation with them. This allows Harry to walk on by without his ex-noticing him.
Distract- going up to Harry’s ex
Who is responsible for ending power-based violence?
Everyone
This resource provides free mental health counseling to students and is located on the third floor of Knight Hall.
UCCC
Alice is at a football game and notices two people who are drunk making out. Neither of them is sober, making Alice worried that neither of them is able to consent. To intervene, Alice spills her water bottle on one of the people to make sure nothing happens. How was Alice able to be an active bystander?
Distract- spilling a water allowed Alice to intervene to prevent a possible instance of power-based violence from happening.
Sara and her friends go out to dinner at Sweet Melissa’s for some of that irresistible lasagna. When it comes to pay the bill, one of Sara’s friends pays for her without asking. This is an example of….
Financial power
Your roommate recently got someone’s number who they have had a crush on for a while. However, you notice that they keep sending them texts at all times of the day and have been looking at their Instagram profile. They even have been liking some of the older posts. You notice this behavior and talk to them about it. Which of the 3D’s was used in this situation?
Direct- by talking to them directly about their behavior
How can someone get Green Dot trained?
Attend a training
This office offers the Green Dot program, among other programs and workshops that deal with power-based violence on college campuses.
Violence Prevention Center