Grief Jeopardy

WORDS FOR LOSS

100

The objective state of having lost someone or something important.

What is bereavement? 

_{Bereavement is the STATE. Grief is the reaction. Mourning is the expression.}

200

Your internal reaction to a loss: emotional, physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, and spiritual

What is grief? 

_{Grief touches the whole person, not just feelings. Accept "grief reactions."}

300

The outward, culturally shaped expression of grief, like wearing black or sitting shiva.

What is mourning? 

_{Mourning is how a community and culture shape what grief looks like on the outside.}

400

Your dad dies, and you also lose his paycheck, your childhood home, and your ride to campus.

What are secondary losses? 

_{The primary loss is your dad. Everything that follows from it is secondary. Callback: "Loss in Miniature."}

500

Grief that starts before the death, like while a parent is in hospice.

What is anticipatory grief? 

_{Accept "anticipatory mourning." People grieve the losses that are coming and the ones already happening.}

GRIEF MODELS

100

In this model, grievers swing back and forth between loss-oriented and restoration-oriented coping.

What is the Dual Process Model?

_{Stroebe and Schut. The back-and-forth (oscillation) is the healthy part. Nobody grieves 24/7.}

200

This grieving style is mostly thinking and doing, like building a memorial bench, more than expressing feelings.

What is instrumental grieving? 

_{Martin and Doka. The other style is intuitive grieving (feeling and expressing). Most people blend both.}

300

The idea that healthy grievers often keep a relationship with the person who died instead of "letting go."

What are continuing bonds? 

_{Klass, Silverman, and Nickman. Talking to a grave, keeping a voicemail, or wearing their jacket all count.}

400

Worden's FIRST task of mourning.

What is accepting the reality of the loss? 

_{Worden's four tasks: accept the reality, process the pain, adjust to a world without the person, and find an enduring connection while moving forward.}

500

Neimeyer's view that grieving means rebuilding a sense of meaning that the loss shattered.

What is meaning reconstruction? 

_{Big questions: "Why did this happen?" and "Who am I now?" Ties to existential issues in support groups.}

IS THIS GRIEF ALLOWED?

100

The researcher who coined the term "disenfranchised grief."

Who is Kenneth Doka? 

_{Doka is also one of your textbook's authors (Corr, Corr & Doka).}

200

Your ex of three years dies, and you aren't invited to the funeral.

What is a relationship not recognized?

_{Exes, coworkers, and friends often aren't seen as "real" mourners.}

300

"It was just a cat."

What is a loss not recognized? 

_{Pet loss, pregnancy loss, and non-death losses like a house fire often fall here.}

400

The family decides not to tell Grandpa, who has dementia, that his wife of 60 years died.

What is a griever not recognized? 

_{Very young, very old, and cognitively impaired people are often treated as if they can't grieve.}

500

People whisper about the overdose instead of asking about him.

What is a stigmatized death (the circumstances of the death)? 

_{Doka's later addition: HOW someone died can disenfranchise the grief. Suicide, overdose, AIDS, and executions are examples.}

WHAT DO I SAY?

100

"Everything happens for a reason," "At least she lived a long life," and "I know exactly how you feel."

What are unhelpful messages?

_{Callback: "Cringe or Comfort." These explain away, minimize, or take over the griever's experience.}  

200

Nutrition, hydration, rest, and this fourth physical need.

What is exercise? 

_{Grief is physical. Meal trains and walking to class with someone count as real help.}

300

Calling the funeral home with your friend and emailing her professors for her supports this task in mourning.

What is the cognitive task? 

_{Cognitive = they need clear, reliable information and help with logistics.}

400

Going to the funeral, then making his favorite recipe together at the one-month mark.

What is the behavioral task? 

_{Behavioral = marking or honoring the death. Can be help that lasts AFTER the funeral.}

500

The chapter's big line on pet loss: "The ______ is central, not the object of the ______."

What is the relationship? 

_{Golden retriever or goldfish, grief follows the bond.}

FUNERALS & FRIENDS

100

A communal symbolic activity: bodily actions that stand for inner realities, plus a community taking part.

What is a ritual? 

_{Symbol + community. Brushing your teeth fails both.}

200

About 57.5% of U.S. deaths in 2021 ended in this form of disposition.

What is cremation? 

_{It's projected at about 63% for 2025, nearly two-to-one over burial.}

300

Name all THREE jobs that funeral rituals do.

What are disposing of the body, making the death real, and reintegrating? 

_{Reintegration happens at four levels: individual, family, social, and spiritual. All three are needed for credit.}

400

Funeral home staff trained in bereavement run a support group and a "Surviving the Holidays" night. This is the level of aftercare.

What is the standard level? 

_{Casual = chance meetings. Fundamental = calls and newsletters. Standard = trained staff and groups. Premier = counseling professionals.}

500

In a support group: "Linda lost her son five years ago, and she laughs again. Maybe I will too." This is the helping factor.

What is instillation of hope? 

_{Exactly what helped Stella Bridgman at the start of Chapter 11.}