Name the Emotion
I did a class project with 3 classmates and we got a B-.
If this happened to me I would feel...
Proud, frustrated, content, annoyed, amazed, disappointed, guilty, resentful, anxious.
Turn this negative thought into a positive one:
"Nothing ever works out for me."
"Sometimes things work out, sometimes they don't."
"I will do what I can next time to make this work better."
"Today wasn't my day, but tomorrow can be."
Name three healthy coping skills you can use when you're sad.
Talk to someone, hug someone, write about what happened, listen to some happy music, color, walk outside in the sun, etc.
Your younger sibling accidentally broke something of yours.
How can you handle this situation in a helpful way? How can you handle it in an unhelpful way?
Helpful: tell your sibling that it was really important and you'd like them to fix it or help you get a new one
Unhelpful: yell at or hit them, break something of theirs
Name 5 ways you know someone is listening to you.
I sent my friend a text and I know they saw it, but they still haven't replied.
If this happened to me I would feel...
Sad, disappointed, neglected, angry, resentful, agitated, hateful, calm, content, confused, shocked.
Turn this negative thought into a positive one:
"It's all their fault."
"We both had a part in this."
"This was out of either of our control."
"Placing blame won't change this situation."
Name three healthy coping skills you can use when all you have is yourself.
Deep breathing, running in place, hum or sing to yourself, imagine the situation going well, imagine a place that makes you happy.
If you are doing something else, avoiding eye contact, and not responding while someone is talking to you, what message are you sending them?
You don't care, you aren't listening, you didn't hear them, you didn't realize they were talking to you, you're busy, you don't feel like talking.
Name 3 things that make it more difficult for you to have a successful conversation with someone.
Feeling tired, hungry, strong emotions, negative thoughts, not knowing what to say or lacking the skill.
Someone else corrected my behavior.
If this happened to me I would feel...
Angry, hostile, resentful, insecure, unsure, anxious, amused, longing, hurt, guilty, shameful.
Turn this negative thought into a positive one:
"I'm a bad person."
"I did something I wish I didn't."
"I can do bad things and still be a good person."
"I will try to do better next time."
Name three healthy coping skills you can use at school.
Talk with a teacher, friend, or counselor, doodle on your paper, deep breathing, use a stress ball, ask for help.
If you stand right in front of someone with your fists clenched and you're breathing hard, what message are you sending them?
You want to fight, you're really angry, you don't like them right now, you're in charge.
"I wish I could live through something. The only exciting thing about 2002 is that it's a palindrome. I don't even want to go to school in this state anyway, I hate California. I want to go to the East Coast. Or at least Connecticut or New Hampshire. Where writers live in the woods."
Summarize what this person said in 1-2 sentences.
"You want to have a more exciting life and you think going to school on the East Coast can give you that."
My parents took away my phone because I got in a fight.
If this happened to me I would feel...
Angry, confused, anxious, helpless, powerless, infuriated, jealous, depressed, guilty, shameful, hopeless.
Turn this negative thought into a positive one:
"I'm a failure."
"I don't know how to do this yet."
"I am still learning."
"Making mistakes is a normal part of growing up and learning."
"A failed experience does not define me and I am more than my mistakes."
Name three healthy coping skills you can use when you're angry.
Take a walk, take space, listen to music, hit a punching bag, talk about it, deep breathing, draw or paint, clean, take a bath or shower, cook or bake, write it out.
Your parent wants you to do the dishes and you're not in the mood to do them.
What is one helpful way you can approach this situation? What is an unhelpful way?
Helpful: let your parent know that you need a few minutes to finish what you're doing, ask if your parent can help you with it to make it go faster, play some music to make it more enjoyable, accept the consequences when they come, negotiate with someone else in the house and make a fair trade (dishes for trash)
Unhelpful: refuse to do the dishes and get angry about the consequences, yell at your parent for interrupting what you're doing, sigh or grumble without responding
Molly: "I have to decide what we do because you never decide anything! I have to do all the heavy lifting in this friendship. You never take charge! I always have to push you. Without me you wouldn't do anything."
Amy: "I'm going to Africa without you!"
Molly: "I encouraged your summer abroad!"
Amy: "I'm not going for the summer, I'm going for the whole year!"
Molly: "Wait, what? When did you decide that?"
Amy: "When I applied."
Molly: "In January? You've been lying to me since January?"
Amy: "Yeah, because I knew you would've tried to bully me into staying!"
What do you think Molly and Amy are feeling?
Molly: confusion, shock, betrayal, hurt, frustration, anxious, resentful
Amy: hurt, powerless, neglected, anger, resentful
My parent suggested that I use a coping skill when I was upset.
If this happened to me I would feel...
Annoyed, pleased, grateful, confused, guilty, irritable, hurt, inadequate.
Turn this negative thought into a positive one:
"I'm unlovable."
"I may not love myself right now, but I can work to change that."
"There are lots of things worth loving about me."
"I may have misinterpreted what they said or did."
Name one healthy coping skill for each of the 5 senses:
Sight
Touch
Hearing
Taste
Smell
Sight: look at art, imagine a happy or safe place
Touch: play with a pet, use kinetic sand, play dough, or putty, hug someone
Hearing: listen to music, listen to the sounds outside, listen to an auidobook
Taste: eat a small candy, have your favorite drink
Smell: use essential oils, smell flowers, smell freshly washed laundry or cut grass
You got into an argument and said something mean to someone important to you and now they aren't talking to you.
Write an apology including:
1. What you're sorry about
2. Why you're sorry about it
3. What you plan to do differently next time
I'm sorry that I said you're just lazy. I know that you work hard and are tired when you get home. I was feeling frustrated and took it out on you. Next time I will ask why you weren't able to do it and offer to help if you need it.
Toula: "Dad, I've been going through our inventory... and I've noticed that we've been doing a lot of unnecessary ordering. So l've been thinking. Maybe we should update our system. Like, we could get a computer. But there`s a lot of new stuff to learn now, so, if you want... l could go to college and take a few courses."
Dad: "Why...Why do you want to leave me?"
What do you think Toula's Dad was feeling in that moment? How could he share that feeling with Toula using an "I" statement?
Anxious--"I'm feeling anxious about what you going to college would mean for your future and our relationship as a father and daughter."