Empathy is the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes, and imagine what they might be thinking or feeling
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Describe a time all four of you had fun together.
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Colton tells Zach that he doesn't care about the watch he got for the holidays. Could this be mean?
Yes! When people are describing things they care about, it could be mean to say you don't care.
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Is it ever ok to leave messages on people's phones, telling them we don't care about them (or other hurtful statements)?
No! That is extremely disrespectful and mean.
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True or False: Empathy is important when communicating with others.
True! People are more likely to listen to you if you can understand how they may feel.
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Colton hangs up on Luke in the middle of a phone conversation after Luke says he is hanging out with friends that Colton is not allowed to hang out with. How might Luke feel?
Luke might feel insulted, hurt, upset, and/or angry.
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Each person must come up with one trait they value in a friendship (not including "nice" or "cool")
Respectful, trustworthy, honest, forgiving, fun, dependable, humble, willing to admit when they are wrong, stands up for me, etc...
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Jessy makes a joke that Luke doesn't like, and Luke responds by sarcastically saying "Wooooow" Could this be mean?
Yes! Saying "Wooooow" among this group is seen as a negative thing, even if the person who said it does not mean for it to be.
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If you feel like you are being cyberbullied, what can you do?
Your first contacts should be your teacher or the vice principal. They are in charge of discipline and can help you put an end to it. Telling your parents is also a good idea.
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True or False: In the DEESC script, it is important to stick to the facts and avoid expressing opinions when describing the situation.
True! It is important that the person you're talking to agrees with your description of what happened, if you are going to ask them for something.
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Colton hangs up on Luke in the middle of a phone conversation after Luke says he is hanging out with friends that Colton is not allowed to hang out with. How might Colton feel?
Colton might feel left out, hurt, upset, and/or angry
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True or false: If friends get into a heated argument, they are not friends anymore.
False! Arguments happen, and friends can communicate with each other to work through the disagreement.
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Jaden has a fidget, but does not want to share it with other group members. Could this be mean?
Probably not! People can decide what they want to do with their property. It is nice to respect those boundaries.
If Jaden was bragging about his fidget after he told the group they couldn't play with it, that could be mean.
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If someone tells you that the messages you are sending them are hurtful, what should you do?
Definitely stop sending those messages, EVEN IF you don't think they're hurtful
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Choose the statement that represents more effective communication:
1) I feel hurt and offended that you did not want to spend time with me.
2) You don't want to spend time with me! You're being mean!
1! When expressing how you feel, try to stick to "I" statements, to avoid sounding like you are accusing the other person of doing something wrong.
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Jessy tells Colton she wants to spend some time away from Colton. How might Colton feel?
Colton might feel hurt, left out, upset, and/or angry
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True or False: Having the "Squad" was good for our friendship.
False! The Squad hurt the group's friendships because people were getting left out.
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Zach interrupts Luke while Luke is trying to speak to the group. Could this be mean?
Possibly!
If Zach was interrupting to prove his own point, or because he was annoyed, then yes!
If Zach was attempting to redirect the group as the group leader, then no!
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True or False: The internet and cell phones make it easier for bullying to occur.
True! People feel more comfortable saying mean things when it is not a face to face conversation.
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Jessy wants to play with Jaden's new fidget toy. Which statement has the best chance of getting her what she wants?
1) Jaden, let me see your fidget. Oh come on! Just let me see it for a second! Zach, Jaden's not letting any of us see his new toy!
2) Jaden, I know you're excited about your new toy, but can I please have a chance to play with it for a little bit?
2! Empathizing with Jaden and being polite have a better chance of working. Jaden might still decide that he does not want to share the toy right now, but statement 2 gives you the best chance.
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Jessy tells Colton she wants to spend some time away from Colton. How might Jessy feel?
Jessy might feel angry, guilty, conflicted, and/or sad.
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In order for the group to continue to be friends, we must spend all of our time together.
False! Friends can get into fights more often the more they hang out with each other. Sometimes, it is good to hang out with others so that the group does not get annoyed with each other as often.
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Is it possible to be mean, even if you aren't trying to be?
Yes! It is important to acknowledge when we have hurt someone, even if we didn't mean to.
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Colton wants to hang out with Luke, but Luke says he can't. Colton hangs up on Luke. Is this cyberbullying?
No! While Luke could have suggested another time to hang out, and Colton could have ended the conversation more politely, this is not cyberbullying.
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Conflicts may still come up after group ends. What is the best way to tell one of your classmates that you have a problem with something they're doing?
1) "Wooooow. I can't believe you did that. You suck."
2) "Dude, stop being mean. You're being a bad friend."
3) "I'm telling Zach what happened. You're gonna get in trouble"
4) "When you did that, I felt upset and angry. Please don't do that again."
4! The other options sound like attacks and can make others feel defensive. Also, Zach is not someone to come to for discipline reasons. If someone says something like statement 4 to you, it is important to hear the person out and take what they're saying seriously, even if you don't think what you did was that big a deal.