support strategies
How would you want a caregiver/enabler to support you and not your ed?
Encourage open communication and autonomy for me. Offer praise and support for progress rather than controlling behaviors.
I failed a test, and to not feel like a disappointment, I turned to behaviors to fill that void
The hero
When a hero falls short at a task they should implore this skill to twist their perspective on it.
Reframe
how would an enabler have to change to support you?
Set clear boundaries and consequences for unhealthy behaviors. Encourage seeking professional help and provide emotional support without enabling destructive behaviors.
enabler
you can create these with an enabler to respectfully disconnect their enabling behaviors from you
set boundries
Offer empathy and validation for my experiences.
Advocate for family therapy to address underlying family dynamics and promote understanding and healing.
I never learned to advocate for myself, so when I feel put-down, I turn to my ed
scapegoat
if you are a lost child, practicing this can help build your self-confidence
Affirmations and "strong posing" B)
How would you have to change as the "hero" of a family?
Challenge perfectionistic tendencies and prioritize self-care and self-compassion.
Seek therapy to address underlying anxiety and stress.
When my parents are fighting, I turn to behaviors to distract myself
lost child
A "protector" can do this to realize their impact on someone's lack of autonomy
reflection or grounding
How could a lost child access support?
Foster connection and inclusion within the family by reaching out and participating in family activities.
Offer emotional support and validation for the child's experiences and feelings.
My Dad consistently/completely over-portions my breakfast and refuses to ever let me portion it myself, even when I'm allowed to.
Protector
A scapegoat cannot do this to other's problems, so they feel the need to take the blame
Validate, but not fix