BOUNDARIES
WHAT IS THE DEFINITION OF BOUNDARY?
- A LINE THAT MARKS AN AREAS LIMITS.
- SOMETHING AN INDIVIDUAL SETS THAT THEY ARE OR ARE NOT COMFORTABLE WITH.
How do you mentally set boundaries?
- Visualize your boundary
- Self-talk and explain to self why it truly matters and why t is upsetting
What is communication?
- Convey or share emotions, feelings, sentiments, and desires.
- Communication can be sent or received through verbal or nonverbal cues
Finish the sentences: "If you seek negativity..."
"if you seek positivity..."
you WILL find it."
What is anger?
- an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage
WHY ARE BOUNDARIES IMPORTANT? LIST 3 THINGS!
- HELPS CREATE A CLEAR GUIDELINE/RULE/LIMIT OF HOW YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED
- LETS OTHER PEOPLE KNOW WHAT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE TO YOU AND WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE TO YOU
- CREATES TRUST AND COMFORTABILITY, AND BUILDS RELATIONSHIPS UP
- CAN SHOW YOU WHO YOU CAN TRUST AND RELY ON
How do you set boundaries?
- Verbally name your boundary to others
- May be annoying, but you have to let people know what you accept vs. don't accept.
Why is communication important?
- To express oneself
- Emotions, feelings
- Planning
- Talking to people in general (school settings, community, coworkers,
What is active listening?
- A way of listening and responding to another person that improves understanding
- Sowing you actually care about what a person is saying
Are there different levels of anger? If so, explain.
Yes, there are different levels of anger that differ for everyone
WHAT ARE THE 3 DIFFERENT TYPES OF BOUNDARIES?
- PHYSICAL
- MENTAL
- EMOTIONAL
What is the most important reason that you have to communicate your boundaries?
- We 100% know our boundaries, and they are easy to break if we don't let other people know they exist.
- We cant assume that people know our boundaries if we never told them!!
What is considered healthy communication?
- Communicating without offering hateful undesirable responses/ tones
- Using healthy language and body language
What entails good active listening skills?
- Body posture
- Body gestures
- Eye Contact
- Being able to reflect
What strategies should we use when angry?
- (100 points for 1 personal answer)
- Think before you speak
- Express concerns using communication
- Use coping skills
- Take a reset
What do emotional boundaries include?
- Not accepting lying
- Saying no and not feeling bad
- Expecting respect from others
- Accepting help
- Asking for space
- Not allowing your own feelings to be impacted or changed by other people's
What is emotional/ trauma dumping?
- Unexpectedly oversharing difficult emotions, thoughts, experiences, etc.
List the 4 styles of communication
1. Passive
2. Aggressive
3. Passive-Aggressive
4. Assertive
What is reflective listening?
- Mirroring and clarifying communication that you received
- Repeating, rephrasing, paraphrasing what was said
Anger can be caused by what events?
- external and internal events
List 1 boundary of each peer at the table
Based off peer answers
How is venting different from trauma dumping?
- Healthy venting: sharing frustrations with someone, having a mutual conversation, taking accountability for mistakes related to the issue, being open to solutions, talking about one topic at a time, putting a time limit on the venting session
- Oversharing at inappropriate times, not allowing the other person to share their hardships, not taking responsibility for mistakes, being unwilling to find a solution, jumping from topic to topic, and talking about too many issues for too long.
Describe all the communication styles.
1. Passive: someone calls you a name. You pretend that it doesn't bother you and you never let them know how you feel.
2. Aggressive: someone calls you a name. You call them an even worse name or you get in their face to try to scare them.
3. Passive-Aggressive: someone calls you a name you pretend that your feelings aren't hurt, but you spread rumors about them to other kids in school.
4. Assertive: someone calls you a name. You tell that person that it hurt your feelings when they did that and you would like them to stop
In what ways can communication help you in this setting?
- Asking for help
- Telling peers when you need a break from them
- Asking staff for a reset
- Advocating for yourself and your needs
- Expressing yourself in a healthy manner (assertive communication)
How is communication beneficial for anger management?
- Using communication to express what upsets you is a way to avoid bottling up emotions.
- If we build up emotions without communicating, a blow-up is inevitable