healthy coping skills
what are healthy coping skills?
Healthy coping skills are behaviors that we use to make sense of negative experiences in a productive and positive way. They help us manage our emotions related to difficult times to improve emotional health and help us grow as people.
What is a HEALTHY boundary?
HEALTHY BOUNDARIES ARE THOSE BOUNDAIRES THAT ARE SET TO MAKE SURE MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY YOU ARE STABLE
What is a UNHEALTHY boundaries?
Unhealthy boundaries involve a disregard for your own and others' values, wants, needs, and limits.
you and Nancy hang out almost everyday, but lately she has been standing to close to you, touching your items without asking and trying to give you hugs. Nancy knows this makes you uncomfortable, and you have told her several times to move away and give you some space. But, she is not listening.
unhealthy or healthy boundaries? why? what should you say?
unhealthy boundaries; she is coming into your space when you have told her several times that is not okay and she is not listening to you
Nancy, I really appreciate you as a friend and I like hanging out with you but I can no longer hang out with you if you continue to disrespect my wishes. I do not like it when people invade my personal space, could you please from now on stop doing these things.
Examples of healthy coping skills?
going for a walk
drawing or coloring
listening to music
deep breathes
playing with a pet
journaling
playing with Legos or games in general
puzzles
doing something completely different and then coming back to the situation
what is a personal boundary?
Personal boundaries are vital in order for us to thrive and be in healthy relationships. Having them in place allows us to communicate our needs and desires clearly and succinctly without fear of repercussions. It is also used to set limits so that others don’t take advantage of us or are allowed to hurt us.
what are unhealthy boundaries examples
•Not respecting someone's PERSONAL space
•Touching people without their permission.
•Disrespecting the values, beliefs, and opinions of others when you do not agree with them.
•Not saying “no” or not accepting when others say “no.”
•Feeling like you are responsible for other people’s feelings and/or happiness.
•Feeling like you are responsible for “fixing” or “saving” others.
Whenever you’re with your parents, you notice that they make subtle comments about your weight. They discourage second helpings at dinner, ask how you’ve been exercising recently, and make comments about your outfits being too tight.
healthy or unhealthy boundaries? why? how should you respond?
unhealthy boundary; they are making rude comments about you and they should not be putting you down
I want to be honest with you: it’s really upsetting to me when you make comments about my appearance. I feel hurt and judged. If you want me to continue visiting, I’m going to need you to stop making comments about my weight.
Why is using healthy coping skills hard?
doing something negative will always be easier plus you have created a habit that you need to break.
Example of HEALTHY boundaries?
•Saying NO
•Talking about your own feelings
•Valuing your personal boundaries and not compromising them for someone else.
•ASKING FOR SPACE (RESPECTING OTHERS SPACE; NOT TOUCHING OR BEING CLOSE TO OTHERS WITHOUT ASKING)
•Engaging in appropriate sharing.
•Not letting others define you or your sense of self-worth.
Why is it so easy to have unhealthy boundaries?
* you do not care about yourself
*you are trying to please others
* you have not been taught healthy boundaries
* people in your life have unhealthy boundaries with you
You are stressed out from school and your friends, school has been hard and you are tired of working on homework. Your friends seem to have problems everyday and you are always the one putting it out.
what could you do to get rid of some of this stress?
ANY HEALTHY COPING SKILL
what are negative coping skills?
An unhealthy coping mechanism may help with negative emotions in the moment, but it will cause further issues in the future. Instead of providing a productive way to handle the situation, unhealthy coping skills can make the problem worse.
what are the 3 examples of boundaires?
•Physical contact (not feeling comfortable hugging a person you've just met)
•Verbal interactions (not wanting a friend or family member to speak down to you)
•Our own personal space (choosing to not have others in your home when you aren't there)
Why are boundaries IMPORTANT?
Setting boundaries is a form of self-care. It helps to create a clear guideline/rule/limits of how you would like to be treated. They let others know what is and what is not okay/acceptable. It honors our needs and wants so that we feel respected and safe.
Everyday you go to class, someone is not listening to the teacher and not following directions. That person like to talk loudly, make mean comments to either the teacher or to other students. You have been annoyed and frustrated with this person for awhile but every time you want to say something all you can think of is something rude to say to them.
what coping skill could you use?
Examples of unhealthy coping skills?
Substance use: Drug and alcohol use can cause more negative emotions or lead to an addiction.
Avoidance: When you avoid a problem that you can address, the issue will stay the same or become worse.
Overeating or oversleeping: Sleeping or eating too much in response to a problem can cause you to develop unhealthy behaviors.
Social withdrawal
Anger
EVERYONE
How do you set boundaries?
•Think through what you need/want to accomplish by setting boundaries
•Use your personal values as a guide
•Understanding that different relationships require different boundaries
•Speaking up (respectfully)
•Practice Saying No
•Use I-Statements
•Be Consistent With Implementing Your Boundaries