Friendship Boundaries
Your "personal space" is an invisible B _ _ _ L E that is around you.
Bubble
You accidentally banged your cart into someone at the grocery store. You should ___________
say "Sorry."
Tell me something that makes you feel overwhelmed.
Hard math problems, loud noises, any other example
You get into class and REALLY want to tell your teacher about your weekend. They are running around trying to get ready for class to start. Is now a good time to talk to the teacher about your weekend?
No. They are busy, so wait until after class or a time they seem less preoccupied.
You broke your pencil. How should you react?
Ask to sharpen it or get a new pencil.
If you are on a bus, where should you sit?
a. Sit next to the other person on the bus.
b. In an empty seat .
c. Stand in the aisle.
b. In an empty part of the bus.
You are going to your friend Brian's birthday party. The invitation says the party starts at 3:00pm. What time should you get there?
3:00pm
Name your favorite cool down or calm down technique when you feel overwhelmed.
Listening to music, taking a walk, deep breaths, meditation, taking a break, getting a drink of water.
In class, everyone is talking about the big football game this past weekend. You watched the game and want to talk about that one really cool pass you saw. How can you jump in? What can you say?
"Did you guys see that pass from ___ to ___? That was crazy!"
You can't find the chicken soup in the grocery store. How should you react?
Ask someone nicely for help.
You go to your friend's house to play and notice he does not have any video games to play with. Can you still be friends?
Yes. Friends can have different interests/hobbies.
You are in the middle of class. You feel that you have a big booger in your nose. What should you do?
GO TO THE BATHROOM and use a tissue to pick the booger. Also wash your hands!
Are you MORE or LESS likely to get overwhelmed if you are feeling tired, hungry, or feeling sick?
MORE likely.
Your friend is telling you a story but you really want to say something, but you should ______.
Wait your turn.
You walk into the kitchen and the oven is on fire. How should you react?
This is a BIG problem. You should call 911.
Jason is struggling with his math work. His friend, Lisa, tells him "Wow, you're dumb. Everyone thought that math problem was easy." His friend, Ricky, says "I can help you Jason. I struggled with this math problem too!" Who is the real friend? Ricky or Lisa? Why?
Ricky. Real friends support you.
Your friend invites you over to dinner. Right when his mom serves the food, you notice it's something you don't like. What can you say or do?
Eat a few bites, don't complain, politely say no thank you I'm not hungry right now
Do all cool down techniques work for everyone? EXAMPLE: If listening to music helps you cool down, will it help everyone cool down?
No. Not every cool down technique works for everyone. You need to find the cool down technique that works for you.
You're talking to someone at recess. But they keep looking away/looking around while you are talking. You should _____. Do what?
Be assertive and politely ask them if they want to hear your story or just politely end the conversation since seem distracted or not interested.
Your friend is borrowing your iPad. But now you really want to play a game on it. How do you react?
You can wait, or you can ask NICELY if you can have your iPad back.
Does everybody have to be your friend?
No. Sometimes, people are just not a good fit for us. But we still need to respect others
You've been working all day in the yard. You are late to meet your friends at the movies. You notice you smell bad from working outside. But if you take a shower you might be late to meet your friends. What should you do next?
Call your friends to tell them you maybe late because you need to shower quickly. Ask to see a later movie or do something different
When should you practice your cool down technique? Only when you are overwhelmed or should you practice it when you are feeling fine too?
You should practice your cool down technique all the time! If you practice when you are happy it helps you do it better when you are overwhelmed.
You are talking with your teacher and she says, "No electronics will be used for the rest of the day today!" You feel upset and want to yell at her. What can you do differently instead of yelling? How can you respond?
You may ask to take a break if you are becoming upset. You can politely ask her why or say, "Okay I understand."
There is a fire drill. How should you react?
Stay as calm as possible and exit the building WITHOUT talking.