Clarification and Ownership
Physical
Emotional
Social
What is Types of Boundaries
you are unclear and dishonest do not hear with an open mind and often display a negative attitude
Closed Channeled Communication
any behavior that keeps you thinking or acting self-centered or self-indulgent (my needs first)
What is Maintenace Behaviors
doing evening in your power to retore your victims and community back to the way it was before you impacted
What is restitution
the individual whose boundaries were directly violated
the individuals or groups of people who are impacted due to the person offending the direct victim
What is Direct Victims and Indirect Victims
Types of Denial and definition
What is?
Denial of the Crime-denies committing the offense
Denial of Ownership-admits to the offense but do not take ownership
Denial that the crime will continue--denies that that they will ever create the same offense
making excuses or coming up with reasons why you acted out in a harmful or irresponsible way
What is Justification
coercion, promises, rewards, games, bribes to get a victim to comply
What is Grooming Behaviors?
Offender
Victim
Rescuer
What is the reenactment triangle
Steps to Offending
What is
Motivation
Internal Thoughts
External Actions
Victim Planning
Types of Motivations
Arousal-feeling of pleasure from the act
Emotional Needs-trying to fulfill a missing emotion by committing the crime
Blockage-Inability to develop the way other people develop due to your circumstances
making something seem less important than what it is or convincing yourself that your irresponsible and hurtful behaviors were no big deal
What is Minimizing
not allowing you to see the bigger picture or to look too far into the future
what is concreate thinking
What does BARJ stand for
Definition
Balance Approach to Restorative Justice
process of apologizing and restoring through restitution
not putting effort to think in a responsible way
Lack of interest in responsible thinking
able to recognize the emotions that may be experienced by another
feeling sorrow or pity for someone else's misfortune
What is Empathy?
What is Sympathy?
when you think you are superior then your victim
replacing negative thoughts with positive rational thoughts
learn how to stop negative thoughts before they gather enough momentum
Thought stopping
Process of Deterrence
Abort a Crisis
Disposing of a Delinquent Thought by Reasoning
Preemptive Delinquent Thinking
Moral Inventory
Automatic Deterrence
Basic Needs/Functions
What is
Love and Belonging
Fun
Freedom
Power
Survival
When you're thinking is shattered or broken you often have racing thoughts
What is fragmentation
Name the steps in the Maintenance Cycle
what is
Unusual State
Problem Occurs
Bad Feelings
Victim Stance
Feeling Fed Up
Planning
Setting up Action
Negative Action/Lapse
Guilt/Promises
Push Away Feelings
Hurdles
Admit you have a problem
Accountability and Attitude
Recognize and Understand
Understand your behaviors
Empathy
Excuses
Honesty & Integrity
Consequences & Motivation
BARJ
Healthy Relationships
Being a Good Person
Passing the Message
S.M.A.R.T GOAL?
What is specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and rational, timely tangible