Types of Boundaries
Boundaries you set regarding your body, your touch, and your space.
Physical boundaries
a limit you can set on what you will accept of another person’s words or actions. It is about defining what you are and are not comfortable with.
A boundary
This communication style refers to avoiding saying what one thinks and feels. People with this communication style often ignore their own needs, sometimes allowing others to walk over them rather than stand up for themselves.
Passive communication
You notice and focus only on the negatives and minimize or ignore anything good.
Discounting the positives
The two types of intentions.
Loving and selfish
boundaries you set for yourself regarding how you spend your time, how you prioritize your time, what your time is worth, etc.
Time Boundaries
Someone has this type of boundaries when they avoid intimacy or closeness, are guarded, make no exceptions and have no flexibility.
Rigid boundaries
expressing your feelings and opinions strongly and as they occur, this can include being demanding, yelling, blaming, being critical, and being verbally abusive.
You apply one experience to all situations.
Overgeneralizing
Saying things like "Yes, I'll listen to you" or "I trust you"
Soft Loving
boundaries you set regarding what you’re comfortable sharing emotionally with others. This is things like deciding when to share and when to take time to yourself, deciding your capacity for listening and supporting others, what you’re comfortable sharing with others, etc.
Emotional boundaries
Someone with this boundary type may be too involved with others, and may have difficulty distinguishing their own emotions from those of others. They may also struggle to say no to others' requests, and may feel dependent on others' feedback
Porous boundaries
a communication style that involves expressing your feelings and needs in a direct and respectful manner, while still considering the rights and needs of others.
Assertive communication
You assume that others are thinking the same thing you are.
Mind reading
Saying things like "No more TV, read a book." "This job isn't working out."
Hard Loving
These boundaries include things like consent, establishing communication patterns, setting rules about safety, anything relating to sexual activity.
Sexual Boundaries
limits that are ill-defined or poorly enforced. You might try to set a boundary but struggle to maintain it or communicate with your partner about it. Many people have no boundaries in relationships at all, which can lead to controlling or codependent behavior.
unhealthy boundaries
Type of communication where information is transferred from one person to another without the use of words or spoken language.
Non verbal communication
You expect the worst.
Catastrophizing
Saying "yes" because you're too nervous to say "no, or just giving in to avoid a fight.
Soft selfish
boundaries we set that relate to our thoughts and ideas. Things like how we respond to someone not respecting our ideas, how we communicate with others, when we discuss something vs. when we know it’s not a good time
Intellectual boundaries
Shares personal information in an appropriate way (does not over or under share). Knows personal wants and needs, and can communicate them. Accepting when others say “no” to them.
Healthy boundaries
3 C's of Communication
Confident, Clear, Controlled
You hold yourself to a higher standard than everyone else.
Double standard
Screaming, yelling, holding a grudge, physical violence.
Hard selfish