Healthy Friendships
What does a balanced healthy friendship look like?
A balanced friendship is one where friends take turns, compromise, and listen to each other's ideas.
What does an imbalanced friendship look like?
An imbalanced friendship is one where one friend is always the boss and make decisions in the friendship.
A healthy friendship is always perfect and you never have fights.
False.
Act out how you talk with a friend who is breaking your boundary of privacy by sharing one of your secrets.
I feel hurt when you share my secret with other people and makes it hard for me to trust you. Can you please respect my privacy and keep my secrets to yourself?
A healthy friendship is _____ when both friends take turns.
What does it mean to be accepting in a healthy friendship?
Friends can be themselves and respect each other's differences.
Give me an example/act out of an unpredictable friendship
An unpredictable friendship is one where a friend changes how they treat you all the time and you never know what to expect.
If someone breaks your boundary, you should ditch this friend.
False
Your friend wants you to exclude another friend from another group after they had a fight. You feel like they are not respecting your individuality. Act out how to talk with this friend.
I feel sad when you ask me to leave out friends because you are not getting along. I hope you can respect my boundary and let me choose my friends.
An unhealthy friendship is __________ when you don't know how the friend will act towards you throughout the week.
unpredictable
Give me an example/act out a predictable friendship
A predictable friendship is one where you can expect your friend to treat you the same way most days at school. For example, they are friendly to you on Monday and then also on Tuesday.
Give me an example of how a friend can be unaccepting towards another friend.
Being unaccepting can mean:
1. putting the friend down
2. telling the friend they have to change to continue being friends.
3. making fun of the friend
A healthy friendship requires BOTH friends to be kind and respectful towards each other.
True
Your friend keeps deciding all the games you play at recess. Act it out how to problem-solve.
I feel frustrated when I do not get a say about our recess games. Can I get a turn to decide?
A unhealthy friend is ____ _________ when they do not allow you to be yourself and make your own choices.
not accepting
What are boundaries in a healthy friendship? Why it is important?
Boundaries are invisible lines that helps you feel in control within the friendship. Boundaries are important in a healthy friendship because they help people feel safe and comfortable.
Act out 2 examples of broken boundaries in a friendship.
Examples include:
1. forcing a friend to share a secret
2. telling the friend who to be friends with
3. making the friend play a game that she or he does not like.
A healthy friendship requires that you talk to your friends if you are having problems.
True
Your friend cames up with a nickname for you that makes you feel embarrassed. Act out how to talk with your friend.
I feel sad when you call me this nickname. I find it embarrassing. Could you please stop calling me this nickname?
Gossping about another friend and sharing their secrets behind their back is an example of breaking a boundary about _________.
privacy
What are 3 examples of broken boundaries?
Broken boundaries include:
1. Not respecting your privacy
2. Not respecting your individuality
3. Not respecting your comfort level
What are positive ways you can tell a friend that has broken a boundary that you hold?
Use a I message:
I feel uncomfortable when (explain boundary being broken). Can you please stop?
An unhealthy friendship can be solved by telling another friend in your group about your problems.
False.
Your friends uses an "I message" to share that she is uncomfortable when you ask her to share secrets about other friends in your group. Act it out how to solve this problem and be a good friend.
Listen to them, hear what happen and how it made them feel. Apologize if you need to.
A friend telling you who you can be friends with is an example of breaking a boundary about a person's _________.
individuality