Show:
Empathy
Feelings
Needs
Strategies
Judgments and Observations
100
How can we show empathy?
Listen Nod your head Say "I hear you"
100
How are you feeling today?
Any response with feelings vocabulary is acceptable (happy, enthusiastic, grumpy, etc.)
100
Jesse wants to fit in at his new school. He goes out and buys in style clothes and shoes and starts listening to the same music as his peers. What are some of his needs? (At least 2)
What is acceptance, belonging, friendship, inclusion, beauty.
100
Fill in the blank: There are many strategies to meet every _________.
There are many strategies to meet every need.
100
Give an example of a judgment.
He's a bad student.
200
Which blocker is this? "Maybe you should get more sleep.."
What is advising/fixing
200
You've been up all night studying for a test that will determine if you pass the class and graduate. You get your grade at the end of the day. You passed! How do you feel?
Glad, joyful, delighted, overjoyed, pleased, thankful, enthusiastic, excited, thrilled, confident, etc.
200
Name 4 needs
Ex: progress, stability, challenge, love
200
Fill in the blank: We don’t always appreciate someone’s _______ to meet their ________.
We don’t always appreciate someone’s strategy to meet their needs.
200
Give an example of an observation.
He is sleeping with his head on the table in class.
300
Please define this empathy blocker and give an example. One-upping
One-upping is when someone is sharing a concern with you and you make it about yourself. "You think you're tired? I only slept 5 hours last night!"
300
Name 3 feelings associated with met needs
Example: amazed, calm, passionate
300
Name 3 needs associated with physical well-being.
Air, care, comfort, food, movement/exercise, rest/sleep, safety, shelter, touch, water
300
Name 4 strategies you can use to meet a need for relaxation.
Do yoga, take a deep breath, watch TV, eat, nap, etc.
300
Fill in the blank: In order to properly make observations, we can imagine that we can see things the same way as a _________.
Camera/video camera
400
You really want to help a friend who is sharing a concern with you. What can you do?
Ask for an invitation to help! "Would you like some feedback or advice?"
400
Name 4 feelings associated with unmet needs
Example: jealous, bored, nervous, terrified
400
Name 4 needs that you have as students.
Respect, learning, effectiveness, communication, purpose, fun
400
Name the need and strategy: Joe asked his mom to go out with his friends to a birthday party on Friday night. She said no. Joe snuck out of his window and went to the party anyway.
Joe's Need: fun, freedom, independence, friendship Joe's Strategy: sneak out Mom's Need: order, communication Mom's Strategy: say no
400
Is there any scenario in which using judgment can be helpful?
Safety situation
500
Give an example of each: -consoling -analyzing -discounting -educating
Consoling: It'll be okay! Analyzing: You're always tired, this is a pattern of yours Discounting: At least you have a boyfriend! Educating: There's a great book on relationships...
500
Why is it important to express our feelings using specific feelings?
It helps create connection and build stronger relationships.
500
Fill in the blanks: Our ________ are a result of met or unmet ____________.
Our feelings are a result of met or unmet needs.
500
Name the need and strategy for EACH person: Brittany went skydiving and had a great time. Her mom was upset and grounded her.
Brittany's need: fun, adventure Brittany's strategy: go skydiving Mom's need: safety, comfort Mom's strategy: ground Brittany
500
Why is judging harmful to relationships?
We make assumptions about people without really knowing what's going on .