What is one way to ensure that you and your partner/friend are communicating effectively?
Be honest, listen, ask questions
What is enabling?
Loved ones may unintentionally support addictive behaviors by shielding the person from consequences—paying rent, making excuses, or smoothing over problems.
What are attachment styles?
Attachment styles are patterns of how we connect with others.
What is a personal boundary?
Personal boundaries are the limits and rules individuals set to define acceptable behaviour from others, protecting their physical and emotional wellbeing. They establish how people can interact with you, what you’re comfortable with, and create the foundation for healthy relationships.
Name 2 love languages
Words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, and receiving gifts.
75% of communication is expressed through this.
Body language.
What is co-dependency?
Co-dependency is another common dynamic, where a person derives their identity or emotional stability from “fixing” someone else. This can lead to controlling behavior, emotional burnout, and unspoken resentment.
Identify the type of attachment:
Can regulate emotions, easily trusts others, effectively communicates, is comfortable being alone, and can self-reflect.
Secure.
What are some examples of healthy boundaries?
Expressing your feelings responsibly, talking about your experiences honestly, making your expectations clear, declining anything you don't want to do, and addressing problems directly.
Name 3 coping skills.
exercise, journaling, call someone you trust, go to a meeting, reading, puzzles, art etc
What is one way you can avoid making your partner/friend defensive when talking about a difficult issue?
Use "I" statements, talk about your own feelings, try to understand where the other person is coming from, avoid accusing the other person
What are some indicators of healthy relationships? Share three qualities.
Honesty, respect, communication, equality, and empathy.
Identify the type of attachment:
Fears rejection, unable to regulate emotions, high levels of anxiety, and difficulty trusting others.
Disorganized.
How can you set healthy boundaries?
Step 1. Be as clear and as straightforward as possible. Do not raise your voice.
Step 2. State your need or request directly in terms of what you’d like, rather than what you don’t want or like.
Step 3. Accept any discomfort that arises as a result, whether it’s guilt, shame, or remorse.
Forgiveness is a process where someone who has been wronged chooses to let go of their resentment, and treat the wrong doer with compassion.
What are some signs that you are not communicating effectively with your partner/friend?
Not feeling comfortable or being afraid to express wants, needs, fears, etc.., or dreading/avoiding conversations about difficult topics
What are some indicators of unhealthy relationships? Share three qualities.
Controlling behaviors, belittling, excessive jealousy, possessiveness, and disrespect of boundaries.
Identify the type of attachment:
Highly sensitive to criticism, needs approval from others, jealous and clingy tendencies, low self-esteem, and feels unworthy of love.
Anxious.
Why do boundaries matter?
Without boundaries, you risk:
Emotional exhaustion, resentment, loss of identity, burnout, damaged relationships, and decreased self-esteem.
What is gratitude? What does it look like?
Gratitude is all about recognizing the good things in your life and the role that others play in those positive events.
Giving thanks, doing something kind for another person, taking a moment to think about what you are grateful for, paying attention to the small things in life etc
What are some things that can turn a conflict into a fight?
Making threats, giving ultimatums (ex: Do this, or else!), accusing without listening, not being willing to apologize or take the blame, getting physical with your partner/friend.
How do unhealthy patterns threaten recovery?
Induces emotional stress, erodes self-confidence, and can trigger cravings.
Identify the attachment style:
Persistently avoids intimacy (physical or emotional), feels a strong sense of independence, is uncomfortable expressing feelings, and has a hard time trusting.
Avoidant.
Name 3 types of boundaries.
Physical, time, mental, emotional, material, internal, conversational.
What are the benefits of gratitude?
Better sleep, better immunity, higher self-esteem, stronger relationships, decreased stress, lower blood pressure, less anxiety & depression, higher levels of optimism, and great life satisfaction.