Green Flags
This quality means someone listens to you and values your opinions.
Respect
Calling someone names or mocking them.
What are put-downs / verbal abuse?
Is “feeling safe to say no” healthy or unhealthy?
What is healthy?
A boundary is something you set to protect your ____.
What is your comfort, safety, or wellbeing?
Your friend apologizes, listens, and tries to fix a mistake. Green, yellow, or red?
What is green?
This means you don’t feel pressured to respond to texts immediately.
What is space / healthy independence?
Someone checks your phone without permission.
What is invading privacy / controlling behavior?
Is “someone checking in constantly and demanding instant replies” healthy or unhealthy?
What is unhealthy?
Not wanting someone to look through your phone is what kind of boundary?
What is a privacy boundary?
A friend makes jokes about you that hurt your feelings and says you’re “too sensitive.”
What is yellow or red? (depending on pattern)
This green flag means each person can make choices and neither person controls the other.
What is shared power?
A person threatens to hurt themselves if you leave.
What is manipulation?
Is “disagreement handled through calm conversation” healthy or unhealthy?
What is healthy?
Needing alone time or time with friends is this kind of boundary.
What is a time/space boundary?
A partner texts nonstop and gets angry if you don’t answer immediately.
What is red?
Your partner supports your goals, interests, and friendships.
What is encouragement / support?
A partner tells you who you can or cannot spend time with.
What is controlling your relationships?
Is “feeling afraid of what they’ll do if you upset them” healthy or unhealthy?
What is unhealthy?
Saying “I don’t like being joked about in public” is setting this kind of boundary.
What is an emotional boundary?
Your friend respects your “no” when you aren’t in the mood to hang out.
What is green?
This key skill helps solve conflict without yelling, threats, or ignoring.
What is healthy communication?
Someone tells you an event didn’t happen or blames you for everything.
What is gaslighting?
Is “your friend supports you even if it means less time together” healthy or unhealthy?
What is Healthy?
If someone keeps breaking your boundaries, the next step might be ____.
What is distancing yourself, seeking help, or ending the relationship?
A partner threatens to post private pictures if you break up.
What is red and dangerous (abusive)?