Values
What are values?
Things that are important. Can be personality traits, one's standards for acceptable behavior, material items, etc.
What is a boundary?
When someone creates a physical/psychological barrier between themself and another person/group of people to avoid harm.
Declining a hug from a friend and choosing a handshake instead reflects the setting of this type of boundary.
What is Physical boundaries?
What is consent?
Consent is the voluntary, conscious, and explicit agreement to engage in an activity or permit something to happen.
What are attachment styles?
Attachment styles are the way we manage our emotions and feelings we have about our friends and romantic relationships.
Why are values important for a relationship?
Values set the stage for your actions; If you don't know what is important for the other person, you may hurt their feelings; If you don't know what is important to you, you might get your feelings hurt
How can you characterize healthy boundaries? What are the 3 types?
Healthy, porous, rigid
When someone says they need time alone after a stressful day rather than discussing their feelings immediately, they are protecting this type of boundary.
Why is it important that you have consent in a relationship?
Consent is important because it is the foundation of every relationship that you are able to give permission to participate in any activities with the freedom to say "No" at any point and it be respected.
What are the different types of attachment styles?
Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, fearful avoidant
What are some examples if someone values respect?
Treats people with kindness; listens to their ideas; values them for who they are; treats themself with kindness; treats their belongings fairly
Why is it important to set boundaries?
So you don't allow yourself to be harmed; protect your feelings; protect your physical health; protect your belongings/financial security
Turning down plans because you need to study for an exam is an example of protecting this type of boundary.
What is Time Boundary?
What does the acronym FRIES stand for?
Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific
What does secure attachment look like in a relationship? (friend or romantic)
Each person in the relationship feels they can express their emotions openly without creating a problem; Each person feels that they are worthy of friendship/love without external reassurance.
What are some examples if someone values hard work/perseverance?
Not giving up when it gets difficult; Sees something (project, relationship) as something that takes work; Believes in themself
How do you characterize rigid boundaries?
Respecting someone’s decision about participating—or not participating—in certain religious or personal belief practices reflects this type of boundary.
What is intellectual boundary?
What is coercion?
This term describes when someone feels pressured to say yes because of threats, authority, or manipulation, meaning the agreement isn’t valid.
What does anxious attachment look like in a relationship? (friend or romantic)
Fear of being abandoned which leads to clingy behavior; Shows intense jealousy which comes from lack of trust or low-self-esteem
Listening carefully to someone else’s feelings and trying to understand their perspective demonstrates this value.
What is empathy?
How do you characterize porous boundaries? Provide an example.
What are the 6 types of boundaries?
Physical, emotional, material, time, sexual, intellectual (thoughts)
What does it mean to withdraw consent?
When a person changes their mind during an activity and expresses it, this process of ending permission is called this.
What does avoidant/fearful-avoidant look like in a relationship?
Dismisses relationship once it becomes too serious; Emotionally hot or cold; Unpredictable behavior due to switching between need for security and fear