Consent and COmmunication
What is the best definition of consent in any relationship or interaction?
A) Saying nothing when someone asks you to do something
B) Agreeing to something once, which means you agree forever
C) A clear, enthusiastic, and freely given "Yes"
D) Doing something just because your friends are doing it
C) A clear, enthusiastic, and freely given "Yes"
What is a key sign of a healthy friendship?
A) They tell you who you are allowed to hang out with
B) They listen to you, respect your boundaries, and support your goals
C) They share your private secrets with everyone at school
D) They get mad when you spend time with your family
B) They listen to you, respect your boundaries, and support your goals
In Sir Mason Durie’s Te Whare Tapa Whā model, what does Taha Tinana represent?
A) Spiritual wellbeing and values
B) Physical wellbeing and body health
C) Social wellbeing and family/friends
D) Mental and emotional wellbeing
B) Physical wellbeing and body health
What is a good personal boundary to set regarding your social media passwords?
A) Share them with all your best friends so they know you trust them
B) Keep them private to yourself (and trusted parents/guardians)
C) Post them in your bio so you don't forget them
D) Give them to your boyfriend or girlfriend as proof of love
B) Keep them private to yourself (and trusted parents/guardians)
You agreed to go to a movie with a friend, but on the day you feel unwell and want to stay home. What is true about consent here?
A) You must go anyway because you promised earlier
B) You can change your mind at any time — consent can be withdrawn
C) You have to pay for your friend's ticket if you don't go
D) You can only cancel if you get permission from a teacher
B) You can change your mind at any time — consent can be withdrawn
Which of the following is a "Red Flag" (warning sign) in a relationship?
A) Wanting to check your phone and messages without permission
B) Giving you space to hang out with other friends
C) Apologising when they make a mistake
D) Listening when you feel sad or stressed
A) Wanting to check your phone and messages without permission
Spending time laughing with your whānau and hanging out with good friends strengthens which wall of your Hauora?
A) Taha Whānau (Social / Family wellbeing)
B) Taha Tinana (Physical wellbeing)
C) Taha Hinengaro (Mental/Emotional wellbeing)
D) Taha Wairua (Spiritual wellbeing)
A) Taha Whānau (Social / Family wellbeing)
Someone asks you to send a private or intimate photo online, but you feel uncomfortable. What should you do?
A) Send it quickly so they don't get mad at you
B) Remember you have the right to say NO, block/report if needed, and speak to a trusted adult
C) Send a picture of a friend instead
D) Apologise repeatedly for saying no
B) Remember you have the right to say NO, block/report if needed, and speak to a trusted adult
Which of these is an example of non-verbal consent?
A) Someone crossing their arms and looking away
B) Someone pulling back or turning their body away
C) Someone staying completely quiet and freezing up
D) Someone smiling, nodding enthusiastically, and leaning in
D) Someone smiling, nodding enthusiastically, and leaning in
If a friend keeps pressuring you to do something you don't want to do, what is the best assertive response?
A) Say "Maybe later..." so they don't get mad at you
B) Laugh it off and do it anyway to fit in
C) Say "No, I'm not comfortable with that, please stop asking" in a calm, firm voice
D) Yell at them and start a physical fight
C) Say "No, I'm not comfortable with that, please stop asking" in a calm, firm voice
How can setting clear personal boundaries support your Taha Hinengaro (mental/emotional health)?
A) It helps you win arguments against classmates
B) It protects your peace of mind and reduces stress by stopping people from taking advantage of you
C) It makes you physically stronger and faster
D) It guarantees you will get top marks in school
B) It protects your peace of mind and reduces stress by stopping people from taking advantage of you
If a classmate posts an embarrassing photo of you online without your permission, which aspect of consent and Hauora has been crossed?
A) Digital consent (sharing your image without permission) damaging your Taha Hinengaro
B) Physical consent damaging your Taha Tinana
C) Spiritual consent damaging your physical speed
D) No boundary was crossed because it was posted online
A) Digital consent (sharing your image without permission) damaging your Taha Hinengaro
What does it mean if someone agrees to do something only because they feel threatened, scared, or pressured?
A) They gave full consent because they said the word "yes"
B) That is coercion, not consent, because consent must be freely given
C) It counts as consent as long as nobody gets physically hurt
D) It is fine as long as they change their mind later
B) That is coercion, not consent, because consent must be freely given
What does "isolation" look like in an unhealthy romantic relationship or friendship?
A) Spending time alone to do homework or relax
B) One partner slowly cutting the other off from their family, friends, and support network
C) Going on a holiday with your family during the school break
D) Choosing to take a break from social media for a weekend
B) One partner slowly cutting the other off from their family, friends, and support network
Which dimension of Hauora is connected to your sense of identity, values, beliefs, and purpose in life?
A) Taha Tinana
B) Taha Whānau
C) Taha Wairua
D) Taha Hinengaro
C) Taha Wairua
In New Zealand, what independent organisation can help young people deal with online bullying, harassment, or non-consensual image sharing?
A) Netsafe
B) TradeMe
C) MetService
D) Spark NZ
A) Netsafe
How does alcohol or drugs affect a person's ability to give consent?
A) It makes consent easier because people become more honest
B) It has no effect on consent as long as they can still speak
C) Someone who is heavily intoxicated or unconscious cannot legally or genuinely give consent
D) Consent given while intoxicated is valid for up to 24 hours
C) Someone who is heavily intoxicated or unconscious cannot legally or genuinely give consent
What is the difference between a healthy conflict and an unhealthy argument in a relationship?
A) Healthy conflict focuses on solving the problem respectfully; unhealthy conflict involves put-downs, blame, or threats
B) Healthy relationships never have conflicts or disagreements
C) Healthy conflict involves winning the argument at all costs
D) Unhealthy arguments are fine as long as you give the person the silent treatment afterwards
A) Healthy conflict focuses on solving the problem respectfully; unhealthy conflict involves put-downs, blame, or threats
What happens to the "house" (Te Whare Tapa Whā) if one of the four walls becomes weak or damaged?
A) Nothing, because the other three walls will always stay perfectly strong
B) The overall house becomes unstable, showing that all four dimensions of Hauora affect each other
C) You instantly lose all your physical fitness
D) The house collapses permanently and cannot be fixed
B) The overall house becomes unstable, showing that all four dimensions of Hauora affect each other
What is "cyber-stalking" or digital boundary crossing in a relationship?
A) Liking a friend's new photo once a week
B) Constantly monitoring someone's location, active status, and comments to control who they talk to
C) Sending a meme to a group chat after school
D) Tagging a friend in a funny video
B) Constantly monitoring someone's location, active status, and comments to control who they talk to