Green Light or Red Light 1
Listening without interrupting the other person to share your own thoughts?
Green Light- This is a healthy relationship quality. If you know the name of this quality you can get a bonus 50 points.
This person encourages you to pursue your goals.
Cute (Healthy)- support and encouragement to pursue positive & productive goals are keys to a healthy relationship
Being hit, slapped, or pinched is the only way to get hurt in a relationship.
FALSE- Abuse and pain can be inflicted in 5 different ways.
Name these different types of abuse for 25 bonus points each.
"I can't let you borrow my car tomorrow because I will need it, but I can drop you off."
Assertive.
A key skill in healthy relationships involves talking things out and sharing information and opinions with each other. What is this skill?
(Verbal) Communication
Your partner does not like when you interact with other people when you go out, GL or RL?
RED Light- jealousy can be a red flag of other controlling behaviors
Every problem in this relationship is blamed on you or you blame it on the other person's behaviors.
Concerning (Unhealthy)- important for each person to own up to their own mistakes and communicate when there is conflict.
"Why would you even ask me that? You're so annoying."
Aggressive
How may the way you feel about yourself effect your relationship?
If you view yourself in a positive way this may help you to be a good partner / attract a good partner.
Your partner, family member, or friend validates your experiences, listens to you, and supports your beliefs even if they are different from theirs. RL or GL?
Green Light-this is a healthy relationship quality.
50 bonus Points can be allotted if you know what quality this is referring to.
This person wants to know where you are at all times or vice versa.
Concerning (Unhealthy)- Communication and honesty is important in relationships but keeping tabs on someone is crossing a personal boundary line.
Every healthy relationship looks the same.
FALSE- no two relationships look the same, which is why it is important to learn what our own unique personal boundaries might be.
“You’re right, it was my fault. I’m a horrible human being.”
Passive
Your partner is usually kind and sweet then suddenly becomes angry and insults you, GL or RL?
Red light- mood swings without the ability to talk about them or seek help from a licensed professional can be a sign of unhealthy or even abusive relationships.
One partner is constantly accusing other of cheating or keeping secrets.
RED Light- Insecurities are unhealthy in a relationship and might be a sign that the person needs to work on their own self esteem before they can be a healthy partner.
You feel that you can be "yourself" around this person.
Cute (healthy)- important to feel comfortable and safe with your partner
Being aware of unhealthy patterns means you are looking for them.
FALSE- being aware helps to keep the relationship on track and safe, and means you are practicing self respect.
"S/He's my boyfriend/girlfriend/partner so I have to say yes to sexual activities together".
Passive & Unhealthy! Relationships are built off mutual respect, personal boundaries, communication, and consent.
Body language, words, eye contact and facial expressions are all part of what green light relationship quality?
Communication
Which of the following is NOT a Red Light in a relationship?
a) having an argument
b) insulting/ putting down partner
c) jealousy
d) silent treatment
a) having an argument - disagreements are ok in relationships once dealt with productively & respectfully and may even make the relationship stronger!
You both look forward to being together.
Cute (Healthy)- It is worth listening to your gut feelings!- good indicator if you feel happy and excited to be with this person.
Personal boundaries are cold and unloving.
False. Discussing your personal boundaries allows others to understand what kinds of conversations/interactions you are comfortable with. Even in a relationship you are still your own person who deserves respect.
What DBT skills focus on effective communication? (Three answers, 50 pts each)
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