Healthy vs. Unhealthy
Your friend tells you that you are going to go out to lunch at a location of their choosing and when you express you don't really like their food at the place they chose, they say, "Oh well, that's where we are going, whether you like it or not!" Is your friend displaying a healthy or unhealthy relationship towards you?
No, this is not a healthy relationship.
You could say:
"Please don't make jokes about me, it makes me very uncomfortable."
"I really don't appreciate the joke you made about me, can you please not do it again?"
"That joke was kind of hurtful and it made me uncomfortable."
Your long time best friend has noticed that something is bothering you, so they ask you what's going on. When you tell them, they blow it off and tell you that you're overreacting. Is there a problem here?
Yes, there is a problem here. Your friend should listen, and be there for you rather than telling you that you're overreacting.
When can you change your mind in a relationship, whether it be a friendship or a romantic relationship?
ANYTIME. You have the right to change your mind ANYTIME something feels "off" to you.
What do you do when you're scared and afraid of someone coming towards you physically.
Put up your arm to create distance between you and the person you're afraid of.
Scream out, "STOP" or "HELP"
You tell your friend that you can't wait for this weekend to be able to see them. Your friend responds by telling you that they can't wait either and they ask you what you would like to do together. Is your friend displaying a healthy or unhealthy relationship towards you?
Yes, your friend is expressing respect of your opinions and is including you on what you should do together. This is showing a healthy relationship.
How would you set a boundary with a friend who is not respecting your opinion?
Tell them,
"I understand we have different opinions, by opinion is just as important as yours."
"Let's agree to disagree on this since our opinions are not the same."
"It's okay we don't have the same opinions, but you still have to respect me."
You are visiting your friends house with other classmates for a sleepover, your friend brings up a secret of yours that you told them to not tell anyone. Is there a problem here?
Yes, there is a problem here. Your friend should not be discussing something you told them privately. This is a form of betraying your trust.
Loyal, Honest, Trustworthy, Supportive, Understanding...
Would you want these traits in a relationship?
Yes, these traits are positive. Which means, it will most likely be a healthy relationship.
You need to talk to your significant other about something that has been bothering you. How do you go about doing this? What kind of environment? What about your surroundings?
Choose a spot that other people won't be able to over hear your conversation.
NOT when either one of you is doing something else, choose a time you both are available to talk, listen, and understand.
Your friends tell you that you can't join them going out to dinner after the movies because they don't have enough room for you. Are your friends displaying a healthy or unhealthy relationship towards you?
No, this is not a healthy relationship. If they can't have enough room for you, they shouldn't exclude you from joining everyone.
How could you set boundaries with your best friend who tells you that you can't speak to your other friend?
Tell your best friend,
"Even though we are best friends, you can not tell me who I can and can't speak to."
"My other friends are just as important to me as you are."
"I don't tell you that you can't speak to other friends, so I would appreciate if you did the same and not tell me who I can or can't speak to."
While at the park walking with your significant other, they ask to go through your phone to see who you is in your text log. Is there a problem here?
Yes, there is a problem. Your significant other should not be invading your privacy, and could potentially be trying to control you.
Your significant other is encouraging you to take a class that you're nervous about taking. Is this something that you look for in a significant other or no?
Encouraging you to do things that may benefit you is a good trait. Any person you have a healthy relationship with is going to want you to succeed.
True or False
In a friendship, BOTH of you want to be friends.
True.
You BOTH have to want the friendship. It can NOT be one-sided.
You are getting texts messages very late from one of your friends while you're trying to sleep. You message them back and ask them to please stop messaging you at such a late time as you are trying to sleep. Your friend tells you, "Oh, sorry! I didn't realize you would be asleep, I will stop doing it!" Is your friend displaying a healthy or unhealthy relationship towards you?
Yes, this is showing a healthy relationship as your friend is listening to what you have to say and they say they will stop bothering you so late so you can sleep.
How would you set a boundary with your sibling who keeps invading your privacy by heading into your room when he's not welcomed?
Tell them,
"I have the right to privacy and I am asking you to please respect my privacy."
"Please don't invade my privacy"
"You shouldn't come into my room or personal space unless you are welcomed to before just coming in."
"I respect your privacy, so will you please respect mine?"
You're at the movies and your significant other says, "You paid the last time, I can pay this time! It's only fair." Is there a problem here?
There isn't a problem here. You both are showing equality and taking turns by treating each other. If one person would be paying for all outings then it would potentially be a problem.
Rude, Controlling, Dishonest, Unreliable, Unsupportive...
Would you want to look for these traits in a potential significant other?
No, these traits are all negative, and would result in an unhealthy relationship.
True or False
Good communication just means that you talk even if you don't listen or understand what is being said.
FALSE.
Good communication means that you talk to LISTEN AND UNDERSTAND what is being said.
Your best friend is telling you that you shouldn't be talking to any other of your friends because it takes time away from you spending time with him/her. Is your best friend displaying a healthy or unhealthy relationship towards you?
No, your best friend is not displaying a healthy relationship towards you because they are telling you to not speak to your other friends. This is very controlling and potentially trying to ruin your friendships with your other friends.
How would you set a boundary with your significant other who keeps telling you they have the right to go through your phone?
Tell them,
"My phone is a part of my right to privacy and that is invading my right to privacy."
"I don't look through your phone, and I would appreciate it if you respected the same boundary as I do to you."
You had a date planned tonight with your significant other but, you have to cancel last minute as your mom needs your help with something. In response your significant other gets real mad at you. Is there a problem here?
Yes, there is a problem here. If your significant other gets upset because you have to be with your family, this is not showing signs of a healthy relationship.
Your significant other tells you that you shouldn't go on a college trip you have for one of your classes because they don't want you leaving town. They get mad when you tell them you have to go because your education is important and the trip is all class related. Is this a good trait your significant other is showing to you?
No. This is controlling. Even though they may miss you while you're on your class trip, they should understand that your education is important and they should not tell you to not take opportunities. Remember, your significant other should ALWAYS want you to succeed and take advantage of opportunities.
Teachers, Co-workers, Bus Drivers, Caregivers
These are all examples of what?
What is AQUAINTANCES.