Healthy Relationships

Red or Green flag?

100

Wants to spend all of their time with you

Red flag. It is important to make sure you have alone time as well as time for other relationships.

200

Encourages you to do things that make you happy

Green flag. Healthy Partners (or friends) encourage us to be the best version of ourselves.

300

Getting really jealous when you talk to other people

Red flag.

400

Willing to talk through/solve problems

Green flag

500

Calling or texting you all the time

Red flag

Communication

100

Understanding how a person might be feeling in a particular situation

What is empathy?

200

True or false: if a conversation is getting heated, it is rude to come back to the topic at a different time. 

False. As long as you agree to come back to the conversation, it is okay to take a break to cool-down when needed

300

When two people are able to meet in the middle

What is a compromise?

400

If a person asks you to do something that you are not comfortable with or that goes against your values, what is a way to communicate that you are not comfortable?

-Telling the person you are not comfortable

-Leaving the situation

-Anything else?

500

True or false: If a person in the relationship uses substances, healthy communication skills will help the them become more rational and a healthy communicator.

False. Substance use causes a person to behave in ways that are not always rational or healthy. No amount of healthy communication change the relationship dynamic. The person abusing substances will have to decide for themselves to change patterns of behavior.

Safety

100

True or false: Only romantic relationships can be unhealthy

False. Any type of relationship has the potential to be unhealthy. 

200

This type of relationship is based on a "power and control" dynamic

What is an abusive relationship?

300

True or false: If you are in an abusive relationship, it's probably your fault.

FALSE! Abusive partners actively make a choice to engage in abusive behavior, it is NEVER the survivor's fault. 

400

True or false: Abusive relationships are only physical.

FALSE. Abuse can be psychological, financial, sexual, and/or verbal. 

500

Who can you go to if you are concerned about your safety in a relationship?

A trusted friend, adult, therapist, the domestic violence hotline

NJ DV HOTLINE: [phone]-SAFE (7233)

National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline: [phone]

Boundaries

100

True or false: Boundaries are selfish

FALSE. Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships. 

200

Types of boundaries

Physical, Mental, Emotional, Material

300

How do boundaries help us?

They set limits for what is acceptable/unacceptable to us, they dictate how we allow ourselves to be treated and how we treat others, they help us to have honest and open communication

400

True or false: If enforcing a boundary upsets someone, you probably asked for too much. 

FALSE. It is common for people to be reactive when we enforce boundaries because it usually means they are losing something. 

500

True or false: Romantic partners don't need to ask for consent

FALSE. A romantic relationship does not exclude anyone from needing to ask for your consent.

Random

100

The hottest planet in the solar system

What is venus?

200

How many hearts does an octopus have?

Three

300

What is the smallest dog breed?

Chihuahua

400

True or false: tiger's have stripes on their skin

True

500

How many bones do sharks have in their bodies?

None