Scenarios
Your worker is singing a funny song in the car, you want to take a video and post it on your Facebook...what should you do?
Ask before you take a video, then ask if you can post it. If your worker says no, respect their wishes on privacy.
Your friend only wants to hangout with you on the first of the month (payday).
Healthy or Unhealthy?
Unhealthy, a good friend will want to hangout with you any time of the month. Good friends don't rely on you to spend your money on them.
What is a type of non-romantic relationship?
-Friends
-Family
-Worker
-Professional
What is a boundary?
A rule you set about how people can treat you. This might be about how they talk to you, touch you, information they know, touch your things, and many more
If my family member asks me for a hug, I can say no.
True or False?
True! People need your permission before they touch you, it is okay to say no if you do not want to be hugged at that moment.
You want to borrow a shirt from your brother/sister/friend/parent/roommate...what should you do?
Ask if you can borrow their shirt and respect their answer.
If your friend doesn't answer their phone the first time you call them, you phone them 10 more times in 5 minutes. Leaving voicemails and texts to call you back.
Unhealthy! Someone may feel very overwhelmed to see so many messages and texts from you. Our friends have busy lives just like you, and might be doing something else or wanting some space. It's important to respect their space and time. Your friend will call you back when they are free.
What is a type of romantic relationship?
-Boyfriend/ girlfriend
-Husband/wife
-Husband/ husband
-Wife/wife
-Girlfriend/girlfriend
-Boyfriend/boyfriend
If you ask your roommate not to go into your room without asking, and they keep going into your room, what can you do?
-Talk to your workers
-Report it
-Talk to the person again
-Can phone the police
If I have a close relationship with someone, I can look through their phone or laptop without asking
True or False
False! People have the right to privacy with their devices
If someone under the age of 18 asked you on a date...what would you do?
You should politely decline. We want to model safe behaviour to kids and teenagers, it is not safe for people under 18 to date people over 18. In some cases, and age gaps, it is a crime.
In a friendship, you both want to be in the friendship and treat each other with respect
Healthy!
Which people in your life can you hug?
After getting permission...
-Close friends
-Family
-Romantic partners
-At special occasions - workers, co-workers, acquaintances
You were really upset with your friend on the phone and started yelling and swearing, your friend asked you to lower your voice and stop swearing or they will end the call...was this a fair boundary?
Yes, this is a reasonable thing to ask you. People don't have to continue talking to us if we are yelling / swearing at them.
If someone in a wheelchair is stuck in the doorway, I can push their wheelchair out of the way without asking?
True or False
False! A wheelchair is a personal part of a person, and you need permission before touching
If your boyfriend/girlfriend told you that you weren't allowed to hangout with your friends anymore and had to spend all of your free time with them...what would you do?
-Set a boundary with your boyfriend/girlfriend and explain that you have the right to see your friends
-Maybe end the relationship if your partner is being controlling
-Talk to a friend or trusted adult about your options
Healthy or Unhealthy?
Unhealthy! The person you are with should always be proud to know you and speak kindly about you to everyone.
What kind of relationship do you have with your doctor/ dentist?
-Patient/doctor
-Professional
-Handshake / wave
-Community helper
How do you feel when someone doesn't respect your boundaries or rules?
-Angry
-Sad
-Hurt
-Frustrated
It is okay to give your taxi driver a kiss on the cheek when they drop you off at your home.
True or False?
False! A taxi driver is a stranger, you can say thank you or shake their hand or wave goodbye when getting out of the cab.
You're at Tim Hortons with your friend, a stranger came over and put their arm around your friend and started asking personal questions about where you live, and for your phone number...what would you do?
-Tell them that that is private information and you don't give that out, suggest your friend doesn't either
-Ask the person to walk away
-Walk away
Your family/workers are worried about how the person you're dating or a friend treats you...
Healthy or Unhealthy?
Unhealthy! Our family and workers care about us and want to see us in healthy relationships. We should listen to their worries.
What makes someone a friend?
-They like some of the things you like
-You spend time together
-You are nice to each other
-You share activity costs
-You both get to make choices about activities
How do you feel when your boundaries/ rules are respected?
Good! You feel like that person respects you and your decisions matter.
Some strangers are called community helpers - doctors, nurses, police, paramedics, fire fighters, 911 phone operator...it's safe to give these people personal information
True or False?
True! Community helpers are safe and trusted adults that have a job to help you with. If you are in an emergency, it is safe to share information about where you live, your medication, and your health needs.