It's Called Boundaries!
A person has entered your personal "bubble"; he or she is physically too close to you.
What is (invading or getting into) my personal space?
During a lesson, a student makes a rude comment about the class.
What is disrespect? (Because being rude is unnecessary. Negative comments do not necessarily need to be shared, and if you cannot say anything kind don't say anything at all).
A student is trying to complete an assignment while another student is bothering them. Soon after, the students exchange rude comments with each other. The teacher gets involved and suggests that someone should apologize.
What is "both students should apologize"?
You raise your hand and announce that you need to use the bathroom.
What is, "May I go to the bathroom, please?" or "May I please go to the bathroom?"
Ask the person next to you for a high five and say, "We got this!"
What is encouragement?
A person tells you that they hate something that you have shared with them you really like.
What is (insulting or making fun of) my personal interests?
A person is looking at you while you are speaking and they nod along to what you are saying as you talk.
What is respect? (Because it is helpful to the person speaking to know that you are paying attention and understand what they are saying by looking at them and prompting them to continue talking).
You received a tablet for Christmas and your parents said you have to take care of it, so you always put it back on the shelf and on the charger when you're not using it. You put a case on it and never take it off, and you never take it outside.
What is Respect for Property? (Because being responsible for your things means keeping them in good condition, especially when it is something expensive. Being responsible with things includes your own items, items you borrow or use in different place, and the items of others).
You shout out, at the top of your lungs, "I'm so angry right now!"
What is, "May I please take a break?" or "May I please talk with someone outside the room?" or "May I please put my head down for a few minutes?" or "May I please have a fidget?" or "May I please get some help?"
State the name of someone in the room and give them a real compliment.
What is being kind?
You are sad because you had a difficult week at school and weren't able to follow through with your plans over the weekend. On Monday, your friend is so impatient with you that it frustrates you and makes you cry. He or she says to you, "Stop being such a cry baby!"
What is (pushing or not understanding) my emotions?
Two people are talking about a peer that you don't like at your lunch table.
What is disrespect? (Because gossip is wrong no matter who the subject is).
A group project has been given to the class. A student is in a group with a person who they do not usually get along with, and believes they will not work well with that student. The student decides to tell the teacher about their concern, but is NOT put in a new group. The teacher suggests the student check in with them each week to discuss how things are going in the group.
What is problem-solving or asking for help? (Because the student asserted their concern and a plan was made to address future problems).
You say, "This is so stupid! I hate this!"
What is, "This is harder than it looks! Could someone please help me out?"
Say out loud to yourself three positive statements you believe.
What is positive self-talk?
You are working by yourself on a math assignment in class and starting to feel frustrated. You put your head down at your seat, but hear a friend call out to you. Your friend comes over and asks you why you have your head down, and you explain to them that you are having trouble on your assignment. Your friend says to you, "I don't see how! This assignment was so easy; how could you not have it done already?"
What is (disrespecting) my mental "limits", "boundaries", or "abilities"?
You listen while a person is speaking, and actually hear what they are saying to you. You wait until they have finished talking and then share your thought(s) and/or opinion(s) with them to keep the conversation going.
What is respect? (Because you are practicing active listening).
Two students are paired together to complete an assignment. For twenty minutes, one student works hard on the assignment while the other student cracks jokes and talks to other students in different pairs. When the teacher comes by to collect the assignments, the hard working student erases their partner's name from the worksheet. Both students receive a poor grade for the assignment.
What is "both students did not meet expectations or did not work together"? (Because the first student could have encouraged their partner to participate and/or let the teacher know if they continued not to participate; also, the second student should have been prepared to participate and/or could have talked with their partner if they were unsure or embarrassed about how to complete the assignment).
Before giving a task your best try, you shout out, "I can't do this! I'm not smart enough!"
What is, "I am having a trouble with this; could I take a short break and come back to it?" or "This is hard for me; would you please show me how you do (did) it?"
Raise your hand and politely ask that each person (or each team) be given 500 extra points!
What is demonstrating politeness?
You and a friend meet up at Altitude (an indoor trampoline spot) after school. You know that your friend is very athletic and he or she proves this by doing multiple flips on the trampolines and diving into foam pits. After your friend has gone several times, he or she encourages you to zip line into a pit of foam triangles from 50 feet in the air! You are really afraid of heights and don't want to embarrass yourself, but think the zip line looks so fun! Your friend offers to do the zip line with you, so you would take off from the starting point at the same time, but you turn him or her down. Your friend says, "Okay. Maybe you'll be up for it next time! Want to try the rock climbing wall instead?"
What is respecting my (emotional or physical) boundaries?
You were given a tray of food that had more food that you dislike on it than food that you like. You said aloud, "This is disgusting," and pushed the tray away from you. A moment later, you stated how hungry you were and picked up the food from the tray that you like before asking to throw everything else away.
What is disrespect? (Because complaining about something you dislike or cannot change does not help the situation. It may also be rude or insensitive. It is better to focus on what you do enjoy or can change and then move on).
You hear a friend of yours make a comment about your other friend and you ask the person why they have that opinion about your friend. He or she tells you that your friend has been really disrespectful toward them recently and that they don't understand why. You explain to them that your friend is having a difficult time and apologize on your other friend's behalf, and encourage them to try and keep their distance.
What is "being supportive", "expressing empathy", "being a peacemaker" or "offering a different perspective"?
You notice a peer is having a hard time completing an activity. They become frustrated, crumple up their paper, and put their head down on the table. You notice them start to cry and say to them, "Come on, it's no big deal! You got this!"
What is, "Hey is there anything I can do to help?"
A friend is not responding to your positive encouragement and you want to avoid getting them in trouble. The following three options would be most helpful.
What is "let them be and try again later", "worry about myself", "suggest a coping skill"?