Healthy vs Unhealthy
What is one sign of a healthy relationship?
Balanced (Also, accepting any answers said in group reviews)
What are the 3 ways we categorize boundaries?
Porous, rigid or healthy.
Your roommate borrows your things without asking, and you feel frustrated. What boundary could you set?
"I want you to ask me before borrowing my things.”
What is one reason people struggle to set boundaries?
Fear, trauma, rejection, or disappointing others.
True or False: Healthy relationships have no conflict.
False, healthy relationships use healthy conflict resolution.
Who are boundaries meant to protect?
Ourselves, we can't "put" boundaries on other people. Thinking of the fences analogy, you build a fence around your home.
Your partner gets quiet and shuts down every time you bring up a concern. What conflict style might this be?
Avoidant or withdrawing style.
People who struggle to say no may have this habit
People pleasing
Describe at least 2 traits for a healthy relationship?
Balanced, honest, trustworthy, good communication skills, safe (physically, mentally, and emotionally)
How do boundaries and values coincide?
Boundaries are based on the things you value, because they protect what matters most to you.
A coworker always assumes you’ll cover their shift, and you feel guilty saying no. What boundary is needed?
A clear time/emotional boundary: “I can’t take your shift anymore.”
Supporting someone's boundaries shows this quality.
Empathy
Why do relationships need to be balanced?
Because balanced relationships allow both people’s needs, boundaries, and voices to matter equally, which creates safety and trust. When relationships are unbalanced, one person holds more power, leading to resentment, conflict, or unhealthy dynamics.
What is a goal for setting healthy boundaries?
Think; does it need to be exactly the same every-time?
Boundaries should be consistent but flexible.
You feel anxious and over-explain yourself during conflict with someone you love. What attachment, boundary style or conflict pattern could be causing this?
Anxious attachment, porous boundaries or accommodating conflict style.
What is one reason self-care is important in relationships?
Taking care of yourself helps you show up in a healthy way for others.
Explain how an unhealthy relationship could lead someone back to substance use.
An unhealthy relationship creates stress, rejection, loneliness, anger, or low self-worth. These emotions can become triggers
Name at least 3 boundary types?
Physical, emotional, intellectual, material/financial, time, and sexual.
Your partner checks your phone because they’re “just worried.” What dynamic might this show?
Control disguised as care / unhealthy jealousy.
What is one benefit of learning about your own attachment style?
It helps you understand how you relate to others and manage conflict.