Communication
What is one way to ensure that you and your significant other are communicating effectively?
Have a conversation with them and check in about communication
Ask them about their communication style (do they prefer phone calls? Texting?)
Check in with yourself after you have an argument or difficult conversation with your significant other. Does the situation feel resolved? Did both people have a chance to voice their concerns and opinions? Was the conversation respectful?
*answers will vary*
Your significant other gets angry when you spend time with your friends instead of them. True or False: This is a warning sign of an unhealthy relationship?
True.
Your significant other wants to eat lunch with you every single day. You have asked them to back off since you enjoy spending time with your friends at lunch. They agree and start eating lunch with their own friends. Is this a boundary violation?
No, because you communicated your boundaries and they respected those boundaries.
When is it best to have a conversation with your significant other about boundaries?
A. After you have dated for at least 2 months
B. Early in the relationship
C. After a boundary violation has occured.
D. Throughout the relationship
D
What is a sign that you are not communicating with your significant other effectively?
*Yelling a lot
*Name Calling
*Feeling like things are unresolved
*Feelings of distrust
*Constantly checking your phone to see if they have messaged you
*Constant Arguing
True or False? Conflict is the same thing as fighting
False
Fighting is generally unhealthy in relationships because it often includes yelling, name calling, and not listening to what the other person is saying.
*Conflict can be a healthy aspect of a relationship. When conflict arises and you have a disagreement, it's important to respect one another's boundaries, listen, respond respectfully, and not let it escalate into fighting.
You significant other keeps blowing up your Snapchat. You are at a family dinner and respond by saying you can't talk right now. Your significant other continues to send you a message every few minutes. Is this a boundary violation?
Yes, you made it clear that this was a boundary violation because you were with family and the partner did not respect that boundary. If these boundary violations continued, you would be in an unhealthy relationship.
True or false? Everyone should date in middle school.
False
Despite the peer pressure you may feel to date, no one should ever feel pressured to date.
It's time to have a serious conversation with your significant other about boundaries. What is the best way to have the conversation?
A. Text
B. Snapchat message so that it disappears and remains between the two of you
C. In person
D.Phone call
C. In person
What are three strategies you can use to keep a conflict from turning into an unhealthy fight?
1. Respect the boundaries of the other person
2.Listen to what they are saying
3. Don't raise your voice
4. No name calling
5. Work together to come up with a solution or compromise
*answers may vary*
Your significant other keeps wanting to hold your hand in the hallway as you are walking to class. This makes you uncomfortable because you aren't really into PDA and you feel like everyone is staring. What is something you could say to your significant other to let them know the hand holding is violating your boundaries?
"I feel like everyone is staring when we hold hands and it makes me feel uncomfortable."
"I am not really into PDA so I'd rather not hold hands on the way to class"
"Holding hands on the way to class is violating my personal boundaries"
"Hey, I love when we hold hands on dates, but it makes me uncomfortable to do it in the hallway at school. Could we save that for date nights?"
"You probably don't know this about me, but I am actually not very comfortable with PDA. Could we stop holding hands at school?"
*answers may vary*
What is the name of one resource you can use if you think you are in an unhealthy relationship?
*Respecting Boundaries Agreement
*Rape Crisis Center